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My teacher brought it up in psych class. I'm genuinely concerned I tried looking it because I'm highly concerned. Are there other factors. Someone explain and help

My teacher brought it up in psych class. I'm genuinely concerned I tried looking it because I'm highly concerned. Are there other factors. Someone explain and help

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I can understand women in the 70s and 80s were raised in a different time, but why would young women now still feel guilty about having sex? It's widely considered normal to have sex outside of marriage, except in more conservative churches. In fact, it's gone so far in the other direction that an adult female virgin is considered weird and abnormal by mainstream society. Are there more recent studies showing that large numbers of younger women still have these types of fantasies, or are they all relying on old data?

why would young women now still feel guilty about having sex?

Young women today are pushed to have sex they don't want, in ways they don't want it. In the old days women were pushed to have sex with their husbands, but now they are pushed to have sex with any guy who wants it. It didn't get better and nobody except feminists want to talk about it. Consent was a serious topic only for a little bit somewhere in the late 2000s, then it got drowned under this new rhetoric of "transphobic genital preference". I wouldn't be surprised at all that young women today struggle with a bombardment of messages about force and sex, and that affects their ideas of sex.

It burns me up how consent as a discussion topic has now turned into "how do I manipulate someone into saying yes so I don't feel bad about my abusive desires" instead of "how do I ensure both of us are genuinely doing only what we sincerely want to do with each other." "Consent is sexy!" they simper. Consent is mandatory and is only real if uncoerced.