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“Hate reading lurkers” circle
I regularly browse subreddits to stay on top of the gender discourse, so that I’m aware of the prevailing arguments used within the trans community. A lot of these arguments aren’t actually arguments though; rather, they are self-serving rationalizations that have a grasping at straws quality about them. This is known.
Sometimes you can also see a hint of a glimmer of self-awareness come through in the sharing of their arguments. Often in the form of “for years we’ve been saying X but that’s actually problematic and normies are starting to catch on to this; so how about we say Y instead cuz it sounds better and I would like people to think of us in this way instead of how we’ve been presenting our core beliefs up until now”. Thus implying that their ideology consists of nothing but sound bites and talking points patched together in a reactive manner, and when holes eventually and inevitably start appearing in these sound bites and talking points, that’s the time to upgrade to another patch. Bye “born in wrong body”, hello “this is us being our authentic selves”.
Anyway…I know that Ovarit attracts lurkers who are likely member of the trans community. And I think it would be helpful to have a circle where posts are dedicated to these “hate readers”, so that they can see how members of this community actually dissect and dismantle trans positions that might seem completely persuadable to someone within the trans community. The purpose of the circle wouldn’t be trashing or making fun of anyone, but to show lurkers why pro-trans arguments are destined to fail when subjected to scrutiny. They always fail because they are built on a house of cards. Within their echo chambers, they will not get this insight.
I’ve mentioned the trans community, but a circle like this one wouldn’t have to be limited to posts addressing trans lurkers and their allies. It could be to anyone who has heard about Ovarit and hate reads this place.
As far as business relationships and friendships I like being around other Type A people because I feel like they “get” me and we have similar visions and goals for things. My Type B friends don’t like to make itineraries for trips and they’re often late to things.
But romantically I’m attracted to Type Bs. they keep me grounded and calm, and their self-assuredness and easygoing demeanor is very attractive to me.
I prefer people who are more relaxed and easy-going, regardless of sex or type or relationship.
That doesn't mean people can't have drive and passions, but the ability to "step back" and have perspective on what you're doing, and not take everything too seriously, is critical.
Type A for sure. I need someone to match me. I don't think there would be much friction because I can also take a step back when needed. I don't mind Type B in platonic friends but everything else I prefer Type A. What about you OP?
At work I like Type As. In my personal life I like Type Bs. Romantically I prefer Type B but not to the point they can't take the lead sometimes and share the load equally.
I'm with a total B, and that's really nice, because calm and gentle make life feel safer and saner, but I find myself frustrated when people around me aren't being productive, it feels unfair that I should be the only one hustling, and that has been a long term issue in our relationship. A mix of the two is probably ideal.