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Book ReviewBook Recommendation! : 30 Reasons Why Men Deserve Nothing by Imani Forester
REVIEW: 30 Reasons why Men Deserve Nothing
By Imani Forester.
10/10 (or 30/30)!
This was a concise, well-written dating manifesto that describes in plain terms why women need to prioritize themselves by raising their standards and enforcing healthy boundaries. After defining the terms in the introduction, Forester provides 30 common sense reasons why men aren’t worth settling DOWN for.
Here are a few (you’ll need to get the book to get the rest)
#1 : “if you build him, he will leave.
#7 : “Your Health depends on his wealth”
#17: “Because they told you to ‘Choose better’”
#21 : “a man is only as good as his current status, Not his Potential”
And my personal favorite
#30 : “Men must build value* and even BUGS know this!”
*she points out that incidentally, men are the ones that obsess over value … we didn’t create the market. We just live here.
She also, wonderfully, provides notes and statistics that support her position. By the end of the book, a woman who is interested in dating will be much better informed ; those who are enjoying separatism will also find a lot of research to support their separatism.
She writes with humour, and her arguments are pretty incontrovertible!
I also watch her YouTube channel - she posts regular responses to current relationship TikTok’s and other women’s issues. Her Channel Imani F. 30 Reasons Why Men Deserve Nothing, @ImaniForester
Check her out ! Buy her book! 📕 it was a great and cathartic and rejuvenating read for me… it feels great to know that if other women are catching on, we may have hope yet.
I think the idea of "forever marriage" probably needs to go away. It made sense in the times when nobody lived very long. If a couple married around age 18, she died in childbirth around age 20 (or sooner) and he died in battle or of some other disease around age 20 or 22 (or sooner), "til death do us part" wasn't an impossible commitment. Nowadays, it makes no sense to pretend the great relationship you have now will still be great and still work for you when you're 80, because chances are, it won't.
Where did you get those numbers though? What time period, what country?
Now, I don't know much before Early Modern Europe, but even then marriage tended to be later (mid-twenties for men, men were definitely alive after 22!) and life expectancy much higher than you think.
Beware of average lifespan data as is is not representative: since infant mortality rate was so high, the important number is years left upon reaching adulthood.
That being said, yes, the median number of years people would have to stay together until death parts them is higher now. But not as dramatic as you make it sound, and less dramatic if you narrow it down by social classes, where marriage was earlier and people lived longer.
Off the top of my head Louis XIV was married to his second wife (which he chose himself) for over 30 years (after the death of his first wife) which isn't total peanuts.