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Book ReviewBook Recommendation! : 30 Reasons Why Men Deserve Nothing by Imani Forester
REVIEW: 30 Reasons why Men Deserve Nothing
By Imani Forester.
10/10 (or 30/30)!
This was a concise, well-written dating manifesto that describes in plain terms why women need to prioritize themselves by raising their standards and enforcing healthy boundaries. After defining the terms in the introduction, Forester provides 30 common sense reasons why men aren’t worth settling DOWN for.
Here are a few (you’ll need to get the book to get the rest)
#1 : “if you build him, he will leave.
#7 : “Your Health depends on his wealth”
#17: “Because they told you to ‘Choose better’”
#21 : “a man is only as good as his current status, Not his Potential”
And my personal favorite
#30 : “Men must build value* and even BUGS know this!”
*she points out that incidentally, men are the ones that obsess over value … we didn’t create the market. We just live here.
She also, wonderfully, provides notes and statistics that support her position. By the end of the book, a woman who is interested in dating will be much better informed ; those who are enjoying separatism will also find a lot of research to support their separatism.
She writes with humour, and her arguments are pretty incontrovertible!
I also watch her YouTube channel - she posts regular responses to current relationship TikTok’s and other women’s issues. Her Channel Imani F. 30 Reasons Why Men Deserve Nothing, @ImaniForester
Check her out ! Buy her book! 📕 it was a great and cathartic and rejuvenating read for me… it feels great to know that if other women are catching on, we may have hope yet.
I didn't mean it should be compulsory!
Don’t you worry it will perpetuate the entitlement men have? they feel entitled to a partner and frankly, they aren’t.
They feel entitled to a partner under our current preferred partner-finding system of falling-in-romantic-love-and-expecting-it-to-last-forever. And in some ways that makes more sense, because don't we all deserve to be loved? But human beings have a habit of falling in love with other human beings who aren't good for us and aren't good long-term partner material.
If the system required a man to actually have something concrete to offer, they might feel less entitled simply for existing, or might try to harder to actually offer something concrete.
To be clear, I am not suggesting we return to the woman-as-property arranged marriage, in the sense of "here, have this thing I own, my daughter, and give me something you own, those cows". I'm just saying long-term marriages might be a better option for women who want that kind of thing if we made those decisions with our head and not with our heart.
There is voluntary matchmaking, so you can avail yourself of a professional matchmaker if you wish to.
And, I mean, you can get a man who wants to have something to offer, rather than one who tries to cheat the system.
I could never have sex with a man I'm not in love with, so arranged marriage wouldn't work for me, unless I treated it as business partnership and got pregnant by turkey baster method, I guess. Even then, I would wonder if we are actually genetically compatible. Women's bodies tend to know that sort of thing.
Romantic love worked great for my parents and several other family members. (I mean, no accounting for tastes, obviously. But all aunts and uncles are/were happily married for decades.) Falling in love with people who aren't a good fit is a bug, not a standard feature of humans, imho.
Hmmmmm you might be a great candidate for this book lol