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💜👞🤠 Butch Positivity Post 🤠👞💜
I'm trying to uplift my fellow butch lesbians by giving them some love. I've felt kind of down lately, very isolated and like I've got nowhere to turn. I don't know many butch lesbians in real life, but sometimes just knowing there are other people like me out there is enough. I wanna be the change I wish to see, and all that.
Here are some of my favourite things about being butch:
The combination of style and comfort: I like putting together basic, yet timeless pieces that I can actually live in! My wardrobe is durable, and fits just how I like.
The feeling of confidence I get sometimes, just from doing little things, like wearing a sick pair of aviators or swaggering around. In those moments, I feel like I'm being Me, IDGAF what anyone else thinks!!!
Knowing that maybe, a little girl might see me out and about, and understand that it's ok to break the rules and not do what's expected of you. Especially if I'm with my gf, she might see that it's perfectly natural to be a lesbian, and we can grow up and live happy lives.
Being part of lesbian culture in a very visible way.
For the butch women I do know, there's so much I admire in them:
The diversity of personality: butch isn't put on or hammed up: we are full and well rounded people. The women I know have so many different talents and interests, and are so emotionally intelligent.
The strength and resilience: we have gone through some shit, we have been yelled at from speeding cars, endured nasty homophobia from people we trusted, have had our hearts broken, and much worse, but we do not let that stop us from putting our best selves on display! It does not stop us from loving each other and other women!
Butch lesbians!!! I ask you to love yourselves, grant yourselves some kindness today!! There are reasons to heal and appreciate just how far you've come!
Now it's your turn! Tell me something you like about yourself, or something you admire in butch women! It doesn't have to be deep!
jackets blazers -Collared button up shirts -having male dominated job to close that wage gap -having an emotionally competent partner who is also your best friend, who you don't have to beg to be nice/do things, and sex includes orgasms -nature hikes -being completey free of trying accommodate the male gaze -booming voice -can you imagine the lifetime $$ savings on cosmetics/beauty products? -will build my love a cabin -protector of women and girls -everyone's favorite aunt -smasher of patriarchy and gender conformity -canoeing/kayaking -being fearless and adventurous -did I say jackets?
Thank you for this post <3
having an emotionally competent partner who is also your best friend, who you don't have to beg to be nice/do things
As someone who has dated butches, I agree fully. That kills the entire "butch women are actually trans men!" argument, because butches overwhelmingly treat other women with respect and kindness, whereas men don't.
Also, I don't know why the canoeing/kayaking thing is so true, but oh boy it is.
Way back when, before I came out, it was the butch lesbians that gave me courage. They were fierce protectors of each other and being around them felt safe. Thanks to all of you who carry that weight of being visibly out in that way. The women around you, especially younger lesbians, are encouraged by your presence.
Not a butch but I love butch women. A woman with a swagger is SOOOO sexy. Can make me downright weak in the knees.
I love how it upends the whole masc/femme dialogue. I don't see butch women as "manly" at all. I just see a positive, confident woman with no apologies for doing womanhood however she likes. And that, to me, is "feminine" in its own way - because its apologetically female.
Get it ladies. I love you.
Yes!! Yes to all of this. When I see a gorgeous tomboy or a butch really show that they are unapologetically present and make themselves be felt in space that it’s just an awestruck thing and it makes me weak! I always say “there’s strength in softness” and I truly believe butches that are true to themselves define that particularly well. I see the feminine in the masculine in new ways.