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ImportantThe change starts with us
We the lesbians of this circle have the ability to make this circle great in which we can give the positive representation that a lesbian would want/need in this lesbophobic/homophobic world.
The first step is to ensure that bisexual women stay out of this circle.
The second step to reiterate what a lesbian actually is and what a lesbian experience looks like.
Bisexuals and TIMS, TRAs, and straights will always try to take that away from us, but not here.
We can be the change for the lesbian community right here and right now.
No, women who claim they only date women but still like men/fantasize about men are NOT LESBIANS.
Women who are married to men/have BFs and want to keep them so they can have meaningless flings with women are NOT LESBIANS.
Women who announce that they are celibate from men and prefer female friendship as company in the name of feminism (polilez) are NOT LESBIANS.
Comphet while potentially a useful term if defined correctly was made to not be defined correctly and was made by a woman who is NOT A LESBIAN.
Comphet SHOULD mean: raised in a society in which anything that is not heterosexual is seen as taboo and not given a representative voice. Essentially lesbians in a patriarchal society are socialized to believe that men are the only option and any feeling that is not that must be repressed. THE FEELING NEVER GOES AWAY, because they are lesbians. They never experience heterosexual attraction.
What that bisexual meant for comphet to mean: it’s okay sweetie, there’s reasons why you were attracted to men, you can still be a lesbian hehe ✨
Combating lesbophobia is a hard battle but the more we speak up about things, the better this community will be.
congratulations my sister. you ARE strong. please keep telling yourself that every single day. it is important with any health recovery to remind yourself how strong you are. you can do anything. if you ever need to talk to someone please message me. my mum went through melanoma and is in remission now and positive thinking is something that helped her (and i, but my worries were minimal compared to hers) so much (as well as conventional treatment of course). i'm so happy for you. you never realise the true "weight" of cancer until it happens to you or someone super close to you.
Congratulations, that is truly wonderful news! I am so happy for you. I wish the very best going forward!
YES! Congratulations. I did a huge smile when I read your post. Here’s to life 🎉
Congratulations!
You definitely built up some serious karma dealing with shitty stuff this year but I bet next year will be awesome to make up for it ❤️
Congratulations! What a relief it must be. And definitely give yourself credit for getting through it all, don't do yourself down.
Love this for you. Being cancer free and choosing not to diminish yourself.
I'm really happy for you. And you're right, you're absolutely strong. What you went through was hard but you came out the other side, here's to better days!
Congratulations!!! Sending love and joy your way. Let your confidence burst forth ❤
Oh this is just wonderful news!!! I am but an internet stranger, but I am SO happy you are on this earth and this battle is over ❤️
CONGRATULATIONS!! I hope the next year brings you the opposite- relaxation, opportunities and lots and lots of good health. What a feat, I am really happy for you and your loved ones. ❤️
Congrats on being cancer free! I'm sorry you had to lose your ovary, though. My mother had breast cancer and got one breast removed and a big chunk taken out of the other one. She's alive but it was hard on her to have to lose her breast. Surviving cancer is extremely hard and I have so much respect for any woman who beats it. And yes you shouldn't sell yourself short -- you got a tumor taken out so you're right to be proud of yourself!
Thank you so much! I have deep empathy for your mom! I wish her good health and more life <3 It truly is a bizarre experience…something that I used to ground myself was just saying that they can never take ME away from me… I’m not my ovaries or my hair, or any physical part of me…I am my wholeness as expressed through my light and my voice/thoughts, which can never be taken from me.
Yes, you're very strong to go through that. It's amazing you have a strong spirit though, not everyone is as tough! Good luck and I wish you the best, too!