Sex with women is blessedly devoid of so many of the concerns that male-partnering women have to contend with: pregnancy, coercion, surprise kink, disrespect, painful sex...while some of these could happen with other women, they seem to be a frequent source of anxiety for heterosexually active women, and it's no surprise to me that many of them have either developed or adhere to some set of rules to minimize the above types of encounters.
I'm really curious about whether you all have rules or best practices for sex with women, not adopted out of fear but rather out of a desire to create mutually and emotionally satisfying sex. I was listening to a DarkHorse podcast episode in which Bret said that one piece of dating advice he'd given his children was to not sleep with anyone who wasn't marriage material - not that wanting to marry them is a precondition, but that if you've already identified a marriage dealbreaker, you shouldn't go and have sex with them anyway. I think this is good, succinct advice. Personally, I don't think I ever again want to sleep with someone I'm not in love with.
What about you?