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You Belong
This is something that came to me in the shower today. Our community has been so fractured and dispirited by the trans politics, along with the misogyny and homophobia of society in general.
I just wanted to say, I support you.
From the desister battling through dysphoria, to the detransitioner wondering if she'll ever be accepted by women again.
From the late bloomer lesbian who suffered under decades of comp-het, to the gold star lesbian struggling to find likeminded women in a sea of pansexual bi-het demigirls.
The butches, the studs, the femmes, the tomboys.
The razor-free long haired lesbian angels of the second wave.
The bisexual struggling to find the girl of her dreams in a sea of abusive pornsick males.
The woman who's seen so much abuse and rough times and grooming, she doesn't know what her sexuality is anymore.
I wish you healing and peace.
I wish you all happy, fulfilling, supportive partnerships.
I hope you can all find female community, female companionship. If not in real life, maybe here, online.
I support you. I am fighting for you. I will do everything in my power to build a space for you, like we've done thousands and thousands of times through time immemorial.
I will do my best to arm you with knowledge, so that if a monster comes knocking with candied words and false promises and assurances, you won't be fooled.
Even if you won't do the same for me, I will fight for you. I believe in women.
I don't really have ambitions to become a director, so I can only list the things that annoy me about directors, and say what I'd do different:
If I did a fantasy movie with elves, I'd either invest the time to hire only actually unrealistically beautiful people to play elves, or I'd do an animated movie. (LotR didn't quite manage, imho. The women were fine, but the men .... nah. Not really.)
Any stunt scenes would be only done with fully clothed people. No telling stuntwomen "you can't wear your safety gear because we need you to wear a little black dress" - writers will just have to come up with scenarios where the woman who is thrown out of the window wears clothes that safety gear can be hidden under, or deal with me just throwing a realistic doll out of the window.
No sex scenes with real people. No kissing, either. People should be able to have acting careers without having to kiss strangers. If the sex scene is absolutely needed, it will be an animated movie. Not sure about nude scenes, but if there are any, they will be non-sexual and the actors will always be given the option of having a double do the nude scenes.
In general, I'd become known for idealistic movies, often fantasy, with wholesome main characters and happy endings, and probably accused of my work being unbearably cheesy. (Though inbetween, I might do some seemingly dark stuff ... that is still extremely idealistic. Kinda like Pan's Labyrinth, if you get what I mean. I'd allow people to imagine that the happy ending was all just imaginary, but a happy ending there will be.)
I’ll be honest and say I’ve never really thought about directing movies, but, I love everything you’ve said here, and would love to see one (or more!) of your films
No obligatory heterosexual pair in every film that often adds nothing to the plot. That and their tedious obligatory sex scenes in many films.
You've clearly thought about this in great detail. My overwhelming impression is that you'd be a director's director, not one hung up on your audience or mass appeal.
I wouldn't want to be a director. If I did, I'd probably want my hallmarks to be something like use of lighting or witty dialogue or long shots (I detest the quick edits so loved today - let the camera linger, let a scene breathe).