You Belong

Posted August 26, 2021 by platypus in LovingWomen

This is something that came to me in the shower today. Our community has been so fractured and dispirited by the trans politics, along with the misogyny and homophobia of society in general.

I just wanted to say, I support you.

From the desister battling through dysphoria, to the detransitioner wondering if she'll ever be accepted by women again.
From the late bloomer lesbian who suffered under decades of comp-het, to the gold star lesbian struggling to find likeminded women in a sea of pansexual bi-het demigirls.
The butches, the studs, the femmes, the tomboys.
The razor-free long haired lesbian angels of the second wave.
The bisexual struggling to find the girl of her dreams in a sea of abusive pornsick males.
The woman who's seen so much abuse and rough times and grooming, she doesn't know what her sexuality is anymore.
I wish you healing and peace.
I wish you all happy, fulfilling, supportive partnerships.
I hope you can all find female community, female companionship. If not in real life, maybe here, online.

I support you. I am fighting for you. I will do everything in my power to build a space for you, like we've done thousands and thousands of times through time immemorial.
I will do my best to arm you with knowledge, so that if a monster comes knocking with candied words and false promises and assurances, you won't be fooled.

Even if you won't do the same for me, I will fight for you. I believe in women.

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001Heart

March 30, 2025

Lesbians are not 'mistaken' for a porn category... the porn category exists to denigrate lesbian sexuality...

True.

lesbianism isn't a civil rights movement... it's a sexual orientation, whether a civil rights movement exists for it or not

That's also true. Now that I think about it, calling lesbianism a civil rights movement reminds of the political lesbianism? Reinforcing that lesbianism is a choice and not an inherent sexuality..

I would rephrase this message to say something like this: "Lesbianism is an inherent sexuality that is denigrated to a porn category for heterosexual males. Transgenderism is a porn category extolled as a progressive civil rights movement to protect heterosexual males"

I really like the message that lesbian rights are never taken seriously like trans rights activism AKA men's blatant fetishes colonising lesbian spaces.

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Cattitude

March 30, 2025

Your rephrasing is far better.

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001Heart

April 1, 2025

Thank you :)

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Cattitude

April 1, 2025

Welcome!

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Posted August 26, 2021 by platypus

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