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discussionWlw and the urge to merge
Inspired by the lesbian bed death post on the other circle.
From Urban Dictionary: the tendency (usually attributed to lesbians) to become the same person. They start wearing the same outfits, doing everything together, essentially becoming the same person at the horror and disgust of their friends.
So basically, giving up one’s sense of self in a relationship. Unlike “bed death”, I think the “urge to merge” phenomenon is unambiguously toxic. From an attachment theory perspective it seems like two anxiously attached people uniting over a shared fear of abandonment.
Do you think wlw are more at risk for this? I experienced it once and the relationship was super unhealthy.
This just makes the complete image of someone who wants to always be hurting themself.
Also, those scars aren’t straight. There’s an angle to them, across the torso.
What’s going on with her nipples? They look like they’re much too high, even after healing that’s going to look wrong.
I was thinking the same. There's some natural variation of course, but I don't think I've ever seen a man with his nipples positioned so high up that they are quite literally level with his armpits. And the distinctly female downward slant of the shoulders is making it even more obvious.
They even make neophalluses out of skin covered in self-harm scars. They don't care at all.
That is just so sad :( these TIFs need mental health help, not surgery.
Oh my god, that's extra horrifying
They'll make horror movies about this shit in the future
It definitely feels like it’s straight out of a dystopian horror movie