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Just a a bit of a rant I guess. On my way home I've been yelled at by two male teenagers two times this week. Not specific words. Just screaming. Maybe they are the same ones.
It makes me a bit paranoid as I I've moved here and in with my girlfriend last year. It makes me wonder if it could have anything to do with my sexuality and if I should be afraid.
I was bullied and threatened as a kid by peers as well and the fear of specifically male youth has always stuck. I've thought about becoming a teacher in the past, but that's the main reason that kept me from it.
It occasionally happens on the bus too or other public places. Not against me personally per se but the obnoxious behaviour very much so. Yelling, making a mess, loud music and they pretty much always get away with it, because nobody dares to say anything.
It reminds me of what I hate about being a woman. The vulnerability. The being physically weaker.
Anyone else recognises themselves in this story?
I'm glad I had my earbuds in both times, even though it wasn't playing anything at the moment, because it makes it easier to pretend I didn't hear them as well.
Maybe there is nothing to worry about and it's not something specifically about me that set these teens off, but it sure is f*cking annoying. *Rant over
Ps: I hope this is the right circle btw. Topic is mainly the shitty behavior of male youth and how it bothers me, even though this example was not physically violent and perhaps only a minor nuisance to some, it does affect me quite a bit and I simply don't have this experience with girls. The behavior itself generally speaking, but more importantly the experience of feeling threatened by them.
You're not alone.
I walk away when I see a group of young males approach. Learnt that they spell trouble in school. Never was proven otherwise.
Take a self-defense class--or several. It really helps you feel more at ease.
I've been seriously considering that. Currently struggling with chronic pain that might make it not realistic to pursue right now, but hopefully some time in the future. Thank you for the advice!
On my way home I've been yelled at by two male teenagers two times this week. Not specific words. Just screaming.
This has happened to me a few times, and I'm not a lesbian, fwiw. Every time it felt like an attempt to scare or intimidate me. Once, they did it as I was getting into my car, and they were looking back at me as they drove by. I flipped them off, and it seemed to bother them that they didn't get the fearful reaction they were hoping for.
It has nothing to do with you. They are being male. They like to threaten and bother people, and behaving in an anti-social manner in general. Some are socialised to be better eventually, many are not.
Definitely recognize myself in your story. It's psychotic, animalistic, extremely antisocial behavior. I've never heard a woman or girl scream nonverbally at me or anyone else, but I have definitely experienced this from young men on multiple occasions, often as a form of street harassment, sometimes coupled with whistling, honking or other comments. The screaming is unsettling on another level. You can never be too careful in this hellscape but luckily for me the screaming never manifested anything beyond the psychological terror.