More

You are viewing a comment thread without its full context. Show all comments.

pennygadgetFebruary 15, 2025

I get where you're coming from regarding frustration with friends and family who refuse to extricate themselves from shit situations. Compassion fatigue is real. But there's a difference between giving up on a dipshit cousin who just had a third baby with her cheating scrote boyfriend who just got out of jail, and saying that ALL women in these situations are bad people who don't deserve empathy because you believe that they all chose their situations and would hate you for being childfree. Demonizing these women as a whole only serves to further isolate them

MementoMoriFebruary 16, 2025

No, there's no difference. The problem is this type of Stockholm women drive away anyone who wants to help them. They sometimes whine about their problem like this but the moment you tell them "just ditch that POS", they immediately backtrack and start singing praise of her beloved husband. "Oh, he actually loves me/the kids a lot, he's just got a bad temper." That "bad temper" of his traumatized the kids for life. But the woman would rather keep subjecting them to her violent, sometimes pedophilic husband than leave him.

I understand the psychological state of these women. They grew up under abusive parents and took that as normal. If their husband just beat them with words instead of sticks like their father, they consider their husband "a loving man." Then religions extol suffering and they believe they are living a virtue. The constant belittling also breaks down their already fragile egos even further, leaving them with nothing.

But that is precisely why they will unconsciously look for ways to beat down other people in an attempt to feel better about themselves. No, they would never judge their husband. They are above them. They will look for peers and people weaker than them i.e. their children. The safe victims. The childfree is just one of many of their targets. They see modesty and purity as virtues and see women who dress sexily, women who lose their virginity before marriage, women who divorce, etc. as beneath them. Hell even working women will be looked down on by trad wives as "not being as dedicated to family as them." Anything to make themselves feel better. Depending on your closeness they will say it to your face or not, but have no doubt these women's ego gets a boost every time you suffer. They see it as you being "rightly punished" for not adhering to the same patriarchal values as them.

Just because they are victimized by the men in their lives does not mean they cannot become perpetrators to their children and other unfortunate women in their lives. By staying with these men they are already abuse enablers by default to their children.

I am not demonizing them. I already told you I understand why they are what they are. I give the full picture out here so people can decide for themselves whether to empathize with them or not. But as I said these women need to be handled by professionals. Normal people will get nothing but frustration outta trying to help them.

© Ovarit LLC
About Ovarit | Rules | Guidelines | Terms of Service | Privacy Policy | Bugs | License
“All space becomes male space unless females maintain a concerted effort to mark a space for themselves.” –Sheila Jeffreys