So I watched a bunch of seasons of Schitt's Creek last year and LOVED it. I thought the romance between David and Patrick was so wholesome and lovely - something we don't really get to see among gay guys on TV. I stopped watching right around when David sings to Tina Turner and dances for Patrick. All cute.
But I decided to rewatch the whole series this past week so that I could finally watch the last few seasons, and it took a weird turn (spoilers obviously).
It starts when a guy comes into the store and gives Patrick his number. David insists that they should go out so that Patrick can experience other people and not get tempted later on... okay, I get the logic. Patrick goes on his date and David ends up getting worried that he didn't lay any ground rules but it turns out Patrick "can't go through with it" and ends the date. Alright, cool.
But then, at Patrick's house-warming party, David kisses Ted during spin the bottle. Patrick and David get into a fight about it because Patrick is jealous that David got to kiss someone else, especially someone handsome like Ted. Okay, weird thing to be jealous about, especially since I thought he'd be jealous that he didn't have David all to himself, but okay.
AND THEN they run into David's ex, who invites them over... and they go over expecting... a threesome? What happened to them being exclusive with one another? (They don't go through with it because it ends up being more of an orgy situation and apparently that's too far).
I was weirded out but still kind of onboard until the finale. In the last episode, on their wedding day, David gets a handjob from his masseuse and he assumes Patrick arranged it for him. Wait... what? It's clear Patrick didn't intend for that to happen, but they're all okay with it and just laugh it off? And David makes a joke about it during the wedding ceremony? Gross. Like... so gross that it tainted the whole series for me. Ew David. I thought this was a magical romcom-type show where a guy finds his soul mate, but then it adds all this extra-marital sex stuff in it and I have a hard time laughing it off.
What's worse is that the reddit sub says anyone who thinks it's weird is a "cis heteronormative prude" and that having an open relationship (with "sex workers", no less) is part of "the queer community". Excuse me, what? Throughout the 90s, the LGB community was trying to get away from the idea that they were all sex-crazed people, insisting that they'd treat marriage with respect, etc. And now, all these redditors are saying that getting hand-jobs from sex workers on their wedding day is part of their lifestyle?? It's bizarre and gross. Meanwhile, all the comments calling it out were downvoted to oblivion.
Okay, that's my rant. I was just so disturbed by that finale, I had to share. I also had issues with Alexis' story/conclusion but we'll leave it there for now.
edit: added quotations to "sex worker" and "queer community" because those are reddit's terms, not mine.
YAY!!!
I'm always so nervous to give them out... like what if I screw up and some raging AGP ends up getting one of mine. lol
I wouldn't worry about it too much. They'd get kicked if they started causing trouble. Just do a quick review of people's post histories on whichever site you're giving them the invite through to be on the safe side and that should be enough.
Lol I'm sure I've accidentally invited a troll or two, but I check people's post/reblog histories before I give out codes. The mods and just this community in general seems really awesome about reporting trolls when they are found.
yeah i am pretty cautious. If i don't know the person, i refer them to this page: https://ovarit.com/wiki/invites
Guuurl. Good on You and on Your many many Friends who are now here.
((slowly creeps around deleting anything I've said that any of Your 34-strong army might take the wrong way... nothing to see here, just carry on with what You were doin'...))
I have so many un-given-out codes. •___• The thing is, I'm pretty much a "Very Offline" person to begin with (insofar as that remained possible during COVID weirdnesses), and, on top of that, except for my 1 best Friend there's essentially zero overlap between my online existence and my real life.
Sooooo yeah if anybody needs a spare code You can alws DM me ahah
I requested mine a couple of days ago through email, don't know if it was you or another woman, either way I'm super glad to be part of this community, and so happy to see it growing 💗
I remember getting my code from someone in Twitter, but it's been a while so now I can't remember who gave it to me. Either way, thank you for going through all the trouble of finding new users and inviting them!
*Edit: sp
How do you know how many used the codes? Ive given out 55, but no idea how many were used
I just copied and pasted the info from the invite codes table into Excel (paste special -> text). Then just highlighted the "used" column (with all the ones and zeros). Down at the bottom of the pane/page, excel will give you a "count" (total number of things highlighted), and then a "sum". Since every code used counts as either a 1 or a 0, with 1 being used and 0 unused, it'll just add all the 1s together. And that's how many codes of yours have been used to create accounts.
I’ve been starting to share a few with radfems I find on Reddit. I only hope to approach your level of accomplishment
Break my high score!
I’m trying to be cautious so we don’t get a bunch of libfems or TRAs trying to infiltrate and troll or something. You know how Reddit be
I think we all appreciate that. I'm always sure to read past post histories from users. I learned a month or two ago that not just libfems or TRAs can be trolls. I "got into it" with someone here who considered herself a fellow lesbian, recently detransitioned. Super mean, put me down (name calling, etc. - I'm past it now but trying to paint a picture). All of my comments magically had -3 downvotes nearly immediately after I would respond to her. About a day later, I bump into her and "two others" doing the same thing to somebody else. All of their comments also with -3 downvotes. Reported her and the other accounts, the awesome admins took care of it.
She was definitely a radical feminist just based on her post history, but very reactive and abusive in the way she commented to people she didn't agree with.
I'm grateful for the admins for doing what they do and taking civility and trolling on this site seriously, even when it comes down to hard calls such as banning users who may genuinely be gender critical.
Brilliant. I've been 'here' since the beginning (not evident from my current username, as I lost my first one due to forgetting my tutanota password :() and every now and then I read comments from the handful of women I've sent invite codes to and am very pleased. Welcome to your protegees!
That's great! Where do you find these women that you share codes with, can I ask?
I wasn't sure how to generate them. Can we all do that?
I think once you're like level 15 or something. You can go to "invite codes" and then generate them.
There are levels here?! TIL ;)
Hahaha, yeah. If you click on your username (or anybody's) you can see what level you are. For example, I'm at level "chronically online".
I haven't given out many codes and this makes me inspired to start offering them more readily.
Good for you! I have no idea who gave me mine, other than I requested it from someone on Twitter over two years ago. I had to delete that account because someone (actually a whole crowd of people) was going to "report me" once they found out where I worked. They were going to report me for saying that men had an unfair advantage over women in sports.
Whichever one of you it was, thanks so much!