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I’ve been fucking up everything today. My 3-year-old snuck outside and tried to wander to a nearby playground, and he was brought home by a neighbor who caught him one house down. So that’s a mom-of-the-year moment right there, where I’m grateful it didn’t go badly but it could have gone so much worse.
I was frazzled after that and scattered and didn’t want to let him out of my sight. I mixed up the time for this afternoon’s therapy session by a half-hour, after two years of being with this provider and never missing a session. I texted apologies within our scheduled time, and just got a cold email about missed session fees and rescheduling. The last thing I want to do right now is reschedule, I’m clearly even too messy for therapy.
When my kid was 3 years old, he opened the front door, walked out on his socks and stood in the driveway for a passby driver to stop, pick him up and bring him back. I nearly lost my mind.
Oh and my mom had a panic attack after losing my son on a playgroud. He hid very well.
So i think this is something every mom experiences. All kids get curious and independent and want to explore on their own. This does not make you a bad mom. It makes you and your little one human.
This could have happened to absolutely any parent. Anyone who tells you or implies otherwise is heartless and has no concept of what it’s like to have toddlers.
You’re a visible enough entity that your neighbors know what you and your kid look like and where to return him to you. That says a lot. The emails sound cold because they come from a culture of sanitization. You’ve got your kid in a program that’s been working and for more than two years you’ve never fumbled the bag before. You’re not too messy for therapy, you’re just messier than you’re used to being today. Which is human and nothing less than acceptable. I hope you’re feeling better from when you posted this, and I hope you have nothing you have to worry to hard about for the rest of the evening.
The fact that you took the time to write these words means the world to me. I managed to swallow everything and reschedule, and my neighbor was kind and said that she’s been there. I feel like an exposed nerve today and the smallest things are painful; I’m getting over illness and my mother is in the hospital at the moment so I feel completely out-of-control. I was even afraid to post here.
Thank you so much for your gentleness and empathy.