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crlody - 3 points

But you're here... I think people are a lot more independently minded than you give them credit for. I actually think their hyperbolic hysterical mccarthyist accusations are good for us.

crlody - 3 points

Ding ding ding. I see this argument all. the. time. That we shouldn't work with conservatives bc if we do we'll get called right wing. But they'll do that anyway! They're gonna say what they're gonna say and NOTHING we do is going to change that. We could bend over backward and they will still call us right wing. At the end of the day you have to tune out all the noise and focus on the mission at hand, which is protecting the rights of women and girls. And the only way to do that is to actually get shit done in the real world which requires coalition building. No one gets shit done all on their own because that's not how the world works.

crlody - 1 points

He is heard saying: "Wake up, Valya, I love you, wake up.”

If you love someone you don't lock them outside in freezing temperatures, that poor woman must have been terrified in her last moments

crlody - 3 points

that is interesting, i don't necessarily agree that it's any better, i mean personally i'd rather be labelled a saint than be labelled crazy, but it's interesting to think about the ways women historically have had to navigate the world. have you also heard about the female mystics who had like orgasmic spiritual experiences?

crlody - 11 points

I enjoyed reading that although I bristled at a few places. I grew up catholic but don't remember much about the saints, other than the big ones like michael [but he's an archangel so does that even count?]. My patron saint is lucy, she is depicted holding her eyes bc she had them gouged out during the persecution. But this bit about agatha is pretty cool.

Unless we rise to the standard set by the TERFS. Pray for these brave ladies! Support them. They need all the help they can get. Until further notice, they’re our only hope. Wanting a patron saint, I nominate Agatha of Sicily—breasts sliced off by an angry male mob for refusing to submit her mind and body to their demands.

O St. Agatha, who withstood the unwelcome advances from unwanted suitors, and suffered pain and torture for your devotion to Our Lord, we celebrate your faith, dignity, and martyrdom.

Protect us against rape and other violations, guard us against breast cancer and other afflictions of women, and inspire us to overcome adversity.

O St. Agatha, Virgin and Martyr, mercifully grant that we who venerate your sacrifice, may receive your intercession.

I don't remember lucy's prayer, maybe I'll look it up and add it in an edit if it's cool too

crlody - 15 points

People really don't understand this or are willfully blind to it, but like just look at cults, most cults are just a means for a predatory male to gain access to women and children and we readily acknowledge this, so why is it so hard to believe that a man would create an entire religion or belief system to indulge his sexual proclivities but not just utter the magic words that he feels like a woman?

crlody - 13 points

i mean, idk if it's feminist or not, but i am all in favor of doing whatever is more effective. yes it'd be nice if men listened to us, but in reality people are more likely to pay attention to something if a man says it so if that's what it takes to protect women and girls, then i support it

crlody - 3 points *(Edited )

Yes agreed, it's not popular to have compassion for abusers nowadays but to me it's the only way forward, we will not solve anything with hate. That doesn't mean they get off the hook and don't have to pay the societally agreed-upon consequences, but it does mean that we should seek to help people love and understand themselves more rather than just write them off. I think a lot of abuse happens because of self-loathing. Yes there are people out there who are narcissists and sociopaths, but I don't think that's a majority. There's that old saying "hurt people hurt people" that I think we should keep in mind more often when thinking about these things.

crlody - 6 points *(Edited )

I just watched an interview with india where she was asked about Allison and even she said yes she did horrible shit but she needs psychological help and she isn't going to get that in prison, imo india herself views Allison more as a victim than a perpetrator but her prosecution and sentence were more or less out of her control, they probably had to prosecute her to get a RICO case, and india cooperated to save herself from going to prison as well bc she was also being investigated as a conspirator, at least that's my take on it from what I've been watching and reading about all this . I'll find the link to the interview and link it in an edit, it was a really good interview, but just a heads up the comments are atrocious.

ETA here's the interview