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sealwomyn - 6 points

I think they are everywhere and you just have to kind of block them and go on. My experience has been I've met more "normies" and even a couple of radfems (who are now my friends) through OKC and HER seems completely overrun with TIMs and every woman on HER near my age is NB... I've tried tinder but people don't even say whether they are gay and there's tons of straight girls so I feel like on those rare occasions I go on the apps that OKC is the least waste of time. It probably depends on where you live though.. I do have an impressively horrible parade of TIMs in my blocklist for each app but I just block on sight and continue on with my swiping.

sealwomyn - 3 points

What sorts of things do you have in mind? Lesbians are often very creative people -- we have women making zines, art, they WERE organizing women-only events (thanks covid), making music, blogging, starting small local meetup groups and potlucks in their cities or nearby cities (thanks covid once again), writing stories or covering news from a lesbian perspective, etc etc.

Do you have some ideas about a way to network a lot of small groups of lesbians together? I'm interested in hearing more about it.

sealwomyn - 1 points

Oh man Star Trek.. I remember Tasha Yarr being on for a bit and then on Deep Space Nine I loved Kira but got banned from watching it after the infamous "actually it's not gay because the symbiote is male" thing with Dax! πŸ˜† I really hated some of the male characters and the ridiculous 60s outfits and behavior of many female characters on the original series though

sealwomyn - 2 points

One of my earliest memories is being absolutely in love with another girl at a big gathering I went to as a very small child lmao. Then I had a best friend at I guess kindergarten age? who I always tried to get to play house with me and wanted to marry her... There was a series of girls who sort-of but not-really picked up on it and enjoyed having me compete with other girls to be their best friend or assign myself their personal defender from all boys and bullies lol I even used to fight with my brother over girls when we both liked the same person.. but thanks to my insane church I was convinced that the devil was putting corrupting gay thoughts in my head just because I was "such a good friend" and if I just ignored them as hard as I could I wouldn't "be lead astray" and "become a lesbian because I was possessed by demons" so.... needless to say that failed. You had one job Jesus! πŸ˜‚

As far as movies and TV I wasn't allowed to see much due to aforementioned insane church but I remember Selena and being obsessed with Princess Leia from Star Wars as a kid, and so mad that she ended up with the guy who was a jerk to her all the time. Same with a lot of my book characters, thought I was fundamentally different from other girls because I hated het ""romance"" so much.

sealwomyn - 1 points

I hate tampons so I only wear them if I have to do martial arts or some other heavily physical activity that week. I only use organic or chemical free disposable pads at work because I've tried those cheap american kinds in the past and wow the pain from those chemicals, it's horrifying that women are expected to just put that on their body. I'm trying to get more into using just reusable pads when I'm not at work. There's been a lot of variety in the quality of these handmade ones I've gotten from various sources but they are comfortable and I don't have to pile more plastic into the trash and landfills. Plus I really love knowing that if we have more panic shops like during the first corona lockdowns I don't have to worry about not being able to acquire anything. I'm interested in starting to make my own, has anyone here had success with that?

sealwomyn - 1 points

Of course I'm willing to change my opinion of her if it comes to light that her comment was taken out of context by the corporation. But I also have so much experience with proud, open homophobes thinking it's fine and professional to spew homophobia from their patriarchal religion absolutely unprompted in the workplace that I have no trouble believing she did it either.

sealwomyn - 6 points

I agree with that as far as corporate motivations but there's also what kind of workplace an open homophobe is creating for gay coworkers and customers. We don't appreciate being told we are disgusting hell bound sinners and having Leviticus recited at us when we are just trying to do our jobs. (Yes these have happened to me at a workplace where I had never once mentioned my orientation to the religious nuts - they just took it upon themselves to start making comments due to my gender nonconformity.)

sealwomyn - 3 points

Not when it's said in direct response to a Pride event. Don't presume that I did not grow up around exactly this type of homophobic religious zealot. If she said it in response to some gross oversharing or ridiculous behavior, then yes it would just be a saying. But not when told a Pride event is happening, then it's her saying we need to turn away from our sinful lifestyle and etc etc. I am well aware of how these people talk about us and it is not even subtle.

sealwomyn - 4 points

As a gay person I like to know at least which companies will bare minimum accept my rainbow dollars and fire someone for calling me an abomination at work (yes this happened) and which companies are funding the torture of my fellow gays and lesbians and would come up with a reason to fire me if they found out I am gay.

sealwomyn - -2 points

She shouldn't have to be forced to wear a shirt, but telling gay people we need jesus is absolutely grounds to fire that bigoted religious nutcase. I would not want to work with her since she clearly thinks it's appropriate to tell me, at work, that I need to change everything about myself to please her imaginary friend. She can fuck right off.

sealwomyn - 0 points

Where did I even say that I was in favor of complete elimination of all agencies trained and equipped to respond to imminent violence against women? That is your false dichotomy, not mine.

New laws to completely reform, train, and hold police accountable should mean that I have another option besides 1. deal with rapist myself or 2. call more bullies, murderers and rapists to hopefully help me, instead of what they have actually done in my experience (which is show up far too late and berate and threaten me for calling while doing nothing to remove the violent man, btw).

And idk what kind of support networks you think I'm talking about but I mean literally calling your friends or a volunteer group of women to come back you up when a man is being belligerent or violent. The Gulabi gang in India is an example but literally, in our lives my friends and I do this for each other. Most of the time when something is unsafe I trust a group of my female friends to handle the situation more than some armed, ill-tempered, unaccountable males with badges.. that would be like me summoning a demon to deal with the current demon attaching me and hoping I get one that won't turn on me instead.

Now we are also on an entirely separate subject from police oversight and involvement in copaganda shows designed to make the public sympathize with them though lol.

sealwomyn - 0 points

Ah yes, because the only two choices available to radical feminists, women who theoretically are able to analyze and attack the root of societal problems, are unchecked, violent jackbooted thugs or imaginary superheroes. No such thing as building a support network of women to help each other before resorting to patriarchal government agents, or fighting for laws to change how these individuals are trained, certified, or held accountable. Talk about a false dichotomy.

Seems to me you are just here to be defensive about the idiot shows but by all means, if you'd actually like to read about the longstanding police involvement with these shows, here you go: How 70 years of cop shows taught us to valorize the police

sealwomyn - 0 points

Nah actually I will not chill out lmao. the gall! I explained how this type of show works and you either can't read or are completely in the dark that this is actually a well-documented and deliberate agenda on the part of cops. However if you just want to be condescending and rude on the internet because a radfem criticized a stupid TV show about an organization of murderers, liars and rapists that's your choice but I certainly will not be respecting it.

sealwomyn - 0 points

Sometimes with feminism it is important to create an echo chamber of women's voices to combat the constant bullshit from men and male viewpoints so that we can hear ourselves think and draw strength from our shared experiences.. or consciousness raising... but yeah when it comes to civil disobedience and direct action you want to use whatever resources are available to get your action done as safely and effectively as possible.

I think an unfortunately high amount of people in internet radfem circles are still clinging to the liberal idea that this system is mostly-ok and just needs a couple nicer laws passed, instead of looking at the root of the problem with having a patriarchal, colonial, capitalist government system that will never truly represent or serve us.

sealwomyn - 1 points *(Edited )

A lot of down votes for some really useful links so I'm just gonna say it -- Y'all I know these type of sites will inevitably spout some misogynistic bs about poor oppressed tims uwu but crimethinc really does have good resources, to the point if you try to link to them from facebook you get flagged lmao. Take what we need and leave the rest! No reason to throw the baby out with the bathwater

sealwomyn - 1 points

Debt collectors are scum sucking leeches they deserve to be forced to use their own number legally lol... at least your average scammer doesn't know for a fact they are targeting a poor person who can't pay.

sealwomyn - 2 points

I am also lol but Chrystos is one lesbian poet I see recommended a lot. I think you can also get anthologies of lesbian poetry

sealwomyn - 1 points

I currently live in an area absolutely swarming with TRAs and infested with TIMs, so I do openly wear radfem merch in the hopes of finding more wyms for our collective! but if I am going to an anarchist event and don't want to get blacklisted from my volunteering I will tone it down slightly lol

sealwomyn - 1 points

I'm the same as most comments here it seems -- when I read a fiction book I usually want to finish it before starting another fiction, but with nonfiction I like to read a chapter here and there depending on what I'm studying at the time, so I can amass a pile on different subjects lol

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