Why do something that makes some women uncomfortable when there are alternatives that make no women uncomfortable? I don't get it...
There are women who may not complain about it even if they are uncomfortable due to anxiety like fear of dismissal like being accused of being too sensitive etc...
I rarely complain about it to my friends because I do not want to make them uncomfortable but I hate it for example...
It is clearly something that makes a significant amount of women uncomfortable for women like Alice Walker to make videos about it, write essays about it, even make pins about it... : https://x.com/FunAndDraconian Here is another video of a woman who dislikes it : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q7Dbs55pKRI
"Hey guys" and "what's up, guys?" are the same use that I'm talking about in "what do you guys think?" That's the same sense of "guys."
Our culture is just rife with real androcentrism that needs addressing -- this just isn't a big thing. There is a tendency in this era to focus on the minutiae of speech and push things there because we've sort of given up on pushing actual social change, which feels impossible. Doing this feels like accomplishing something real when it isn't. Language policing is the low-hanging fruit of social change. And going for it presses people to self-regulate and limit their own speech that is not unreasonable or hateful or bad -- just might not be comfortable for someone somewhere.
And, while it's important to be a well-behaved person, the logic of "Some women somewhere may feel uncomfortable with something, so no one should ever say it" is exactly the logic that says the whatever percent of the population who are trans should be able to make everyone else watch their language and speak in ways that won't offend them, to modify our behavior in order to take care of them and their feelings, even when we aren't speaking to them and are just doing our lives. It is the same thing applied in a different context.
I'm not saying we should be jerks; I'm saying that every human being has to do a certain amount of dealing with things we run into, out in the world, that are less than comfortable for us. Every one of us. Every single day. I would even say, especially women. I deal with it every day. I self-manage my reactions. It's part of life.
And our willingness to bend over backward in our everyday lives to try to caretake everyone's feelings -- or at least the feelings of specific sectors of society -- has led to the dysfunctional society we have now, including the trans problem and the can't-really-talk-about-any-social-issue problem.
One thing patriarchy does is influence women to be excessively other-directed, which men are not subject to. This one seems like some of that to me.
It's also true that, when I use "guys" the way I do, I'm always doing it in real life, not on the internet (where anyone could see and theoretically be uncomfortable with it). Just as not honoring the pronoun thing or other trans language policing initiatives, when I'm talking with people I know in person, isn't going to offend anyone else, because it's not on the internet, they're not going to see it. And honestly, we all get to live our own lives and make our own choices. Even women! 😀
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People use " guys " to refer to women even outside of " you guys " like " hey guys " " what's up guys? " etc...
Women complaining about this is nothing new and goes back more than 20 years way before transgender ideology took off... : https://web.archive.org/web/20210416163841/https://dl1.cuni.cz/pluginfile.php/1097824/mod_resource/content/1/Kleinman_You_guys.pdf
Why do something that makes some women uncomfortable when there are alternatives that make no women uncomfortable? I don't get it...
There are women who may not complain about it even if they are uncomfortable due to anxiety like fear of dismissal like being accused of being too sensitive etc...
I rarely complain about it to my friends because I do not want to make them uncomfortable but I hate it for example...
It is clearly something that makes a significant amount of women uncomfortable for women like Alice Walker to make videos about it, write essays about it, even make pins about it... : https://x.com/FunAndDraconian Here is another video of a woman who dislikes it : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q7Dbs55pKRI
Even some Christian groups have started protesting against Androcentric Language : https://eewc.com/god-not-guy-neither/ & : http://thegirlgod.blogspot.com/2013/06/sexist-language-matters-heres-why.html
"Hey guys" and "what's up, guys?" are the same use that I'm talking about in "what do you guys think?" That's the same sense of "guys."
Our culture is just rife with real androcentrism that needs addressing -- this just isn't a big thing. There is a tendency in this era to focus on the minutiae of speech and push things there because we've sort of given up on pushing actual social change, which feels impossible. Doing this feels like accomplishing something real when it isn't. Language policing is the low-hanging fruit of social change. And going for it presses people to self-regulate and limit their own speech that is not unreasonable or hateful or bad -- just might not be comfortable for someone somewhere.
And, while it's important to be a well-behaved person, the logic of "Some women somewhere may feel uncomfortable with something, so no one should ever say it" is exactly the logic that says the whatever percent of the population who are trans should be able to make everyone else watch their language and speak in ways that won't offend them, to modify our behavior in order to take care of them and their feelings, even when we aren't speaking to them and are just doing our lives. It is the same thing applied in a different context.
I'm not saying we should be jerks; I'm saying that every human being has to do a certain amount of dealing with things we run into, out in the world, that are less than comfortable for us. Every one of us. Every single day. I would even say, especially women. I deal with it every day. I self-manage my reactions. It's part of life.
And our willingness to bend over backward in our everyday lives to try to caretake everyone's feelings -- or at least the feelings of specific sectors of society -- has led to the dysfunctional society we have now, including the trans problem and the can't-really-talk-about-any-social-issue problem.
One thing patriarchy does is influence women to be excessively other-directed, which men are not subject to. This one seems like some of that to me.
It's also true that, when I use "guys" the way I do, I'm always doing it in real life, not on the internet (where anyone could see and theoretically be uncomfortable with it). Just as not honoring the pronoun thing or other trans language policing initiatives, when I'm talking with people I know in person, isn't going to offend anyone else, because it's not on the internet, they're not going to see it. And honestly, we all get to live our own lives and make our own choices. Even women! 😀