I thought I had a good, healthy, close relationship with my daughter until she announced a trans identity.
For whatever reason, I chose to handle it in the most gentle possible way, by asking questions and listening and very much not saying what I really wanted to say.
She's grown more fragile by the day. Everything is a problem. While she had obviously been nurturing this identity and these ideas on the internet for a long time, the change that followed "coming out" was very noticeable.
We used to be a team. She used to be excited about things. Now she sits around avoiding contributing to chores, doesn't want to spend time together, avoids talking to me and talks to internet strangers instead.
It's been a few months. I no longer recognize her. I want her back, but I don't know how.
A good portion of what does come out of her mouth is trans activist rhetoric.
I'm lost.
YESSS. loving it, and the fanfics are wow.