So I’ve got about a small handful of boob, my own handfuls, and the journey to love them has been long. I feel confident enough to say I’ve finally settled into a place of self acceptance and love after 32 years. I don’t need to explain to you ladies about the myriad of things we endure as women to make us hate our bodies, starting from the bullying all the way to straight up sexual harassment and abuse. We all suffer to some degree in this society no matter what our bodies look like. Boobs big? Reduced to a sex toy. Boobs small? Can’t be reduced to a sex toy therefore useless. So to my well endowed sisters, this is not exclusive. I love you, I see you, and I know you have it just as bad in different ways.
One of the subreddits that really helped me embrace and love myself is called smallbooblove. Now, there’s a bajillion subs about bosoms, by men, for men, but this one was different. It was female only, men were all but banned and not allowed to comment or interact at all. Which honestly was rarely tried anyway, it was kind of a sacred little corner they hadn’t found yet. The occasional douche would wander in thinking it was a porn sub, ignore everything saying it wasn’t and get himself banned quickly but the mods were great and it was a nice little feminist space. I’m pretty sure it was born from smallboobproblems and it’s sister sub bigboobproblems but I preferred this one because of the more positive tone and intention. Supporting each other through implant and explant journeys, feminist discussions about male gaze, posting cute pics of bras we finally found that actually fit and inspiring celebrities who rock flat chested looks, it was genuinely helpful and uplifting. Talk about refreshing, even the respectful deep dives into women’s attitudes and internalized misogyny towards each other, felt like a lot of healing happened there, for myself and others….You know what’s coming.
THEN the TRAs came in and ruined everything! From the very first “I’m a traaaans, do I BeLoNg here? uwu” post I knew it was all downhill from there. The mods went full Woke Bullshit mode and have either folded to or been replaced by men parading as women. More and more the posts flooded in and there were strange influxes of votes and deleted comments. It was so hard to tell what the actual user tone of the whole sub was anymore because everything was policed, scrubbed and banned if not fully endorsing these lunatics. I can’t even tell you how deeply fucking upsetting it is to finally find a safe haven to commiserate and grow and appreciate other woman and yourself and then have it snatched away but TIMS. NO! Your disgusting cross sex hormonally inflated harry man chest does NOT belong here! Go to one of your own billion subs for validation from freaks like you! And that’s the kicker isn’t it? They want validation from REAL women that they are in the club, well I REFUSE! You did not grow up from a little girl to a woman with all of the trauma, societal pressure, and downright dangerous patriarchal hatred all women have had to endure!! If I see one more bulky, ugly, angular man stuffed into a ripped dumpster sundress plastered in dollar store makeup whining about bra fittings being transphobic, I’m gonna scream!!
The fucking audacity to say they understand the entire female experience because they’re now growing “little boobies” and the phrase alone makes me want to vomit. These fetishist pigs have done this to themselves, now they want an ego stroke for mutilating themselves and playing dress up into disgusting misogynistic stereotypes?! Half the time it’s just uwu fantasies, bragging about catcalls they do or don’t receive and my eyes have almost rolled completely into my head at this point. And worse still the mods allow it, if not loudly encourage it, so the sub is ruined.
That’s it. It’s a wrap. That’s the final nail in that coffin. I’ve been officially banned from the cesspool that is Reddit and I am fucking OVARIT. Words cannot express the gratitude for this site and this community. You ladies are amazing and make me feel sane once again in this crazy world. I hope you all check out your tatas today and think they are absolutely glorious to YOU, no matter what, because they’re womanly and magical and belong to you.