So I’ve got about a small handful of boob, my own handfuls, and the journey to love them has been long. I feel confident enough to say I’ve finally settled into a place of self acceptance and love after 32 years. I don’t need to explain to you ladies about the myriad of things we endure as women to make us hate our bodies, starting from the bullying all the way to straight up sexual harassment and abuse. We all suffer to some degree in this society no matter what our bodies look like. Boobs big? Reduced to a sex toy. Boobs small? Can’t be reduced to a sex toy therefore useless. So to my well endowed sisters, this is not exclusive. I love you, I see you, and I know you have it just as bad in different ways.
One of the subreddits that really helped me embrace and love myself is called smallbooblove. Now, there’s a bajillion subs about bosoms, by men, for men, but this one was different. It was female only, men were all but banned and not allowed to comment or interact at all. Which honestly was rarely tried anyway, it was kind of a sacred little corner they hadn’t found yet. The occasional douche would wander in thinking it was a porn sub, ignore everything saying it wasn’t and get himself banned quickly but the mods were great and it was a nice little feminist space. I’m pretty sure it was born from smallboobproblems and it’s sister sub bigboobproblems but I preferred this one because of the more positive tone and intention. Supporting each other through implant and explant journeys, feminist discussions about male gaze, posting cute pics of bras we finally found that actually fit and inspiring celebrities who rock flat chested looks, it was genuinely helpful and uplifting. Talk about refreshing, even the respectful deep dives into women’s attitudes and internalized misogyny towards each other, felt like a lot of healing happened there, for myself and others….You know what’s coming.
THEN the TRAs came in and ruined everything! From the very first “I’m a traaaans, do I BeLoNg here? uwu” post I knew it was all downhill from there. The mods went full Woke Bullshit mode and have either folded to or been replaced by men parading as women. More and more the posts flooded in and there were strange influxes of votes and deleted comments. It was so hard to tell what the actual user tone of the whole sub was anymore because everything was policed, scrubbed and banned if not fully endorsing these lunatics. I can’t even tell you how deeply fucking upsetting it is to finally find a safe haven to commiserate and grow and appreciate other woman and yourself and then have it snatched away but TIMS. NO! Your disgusting cross sex hormonally inflated harry man chest does NOT belong here! Go to one of your own billion subs for validation from freaks like you! And that’s the kicker isn’t it? They want validation from REAL women that they are in the club, well I REFUSE! You did not grow up from a little girl to a woman with all of the trauma, societal pressure, and downright dangerous patriarchal hatred all women have had to endure!! If I see one more bulky, ugly, angular man stuffed into a ripped dumpster sundress plastered in dollar store makeup whining about bra fittings being transphobic, I’m gonna scream!!
The fucking audacity to say they understand the entire female experience because they’re now growing “little boobies” and the phrase alone makes me want to vomit. These fetishist pigs have done this to themselves, now they want an ego stroke for mutilating themselves and playing dress up into disgusting misogynistic stereotypes?! Half the time it’s just uwu fantasies, bragging about catcalls they do or don’t receive and my eyes have almost rolled completely into my head at this point. And worse still the mods allow it, if not loudly encourage it, so the sub is ruined.
That’s it. It’s a wrap. That’s the final nail in that coffin. I’ve been officially banned from the cesspool that is Reddit and I am fucking OVARIT. Words cannot express the gratitude for this site and this community. You ladies are amazing and make me feel sane once again in this crazy world. I hope you all check out your tatas today and think they are absolutely glorious to YOU, no matter what, because they’re womanly and magical and belong to you.
How are we supposed to be taken seriously when our identity is being taken by these freaks?
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It’s funny eh lol. Like sorry lady, it’s freaks all the way down.
This is truscum, they are trans people (mostly FTM) that say in order to be trans you have to have dysphoria and most of them are transmeds also (in order to be considered trans you have to take steps towards medical transition such as taking hormones or some surgery). AKA "hatekeeping". This is in contrast to the "tucutes" they say that the pre-everything trans ppl are valid, no need to socially or medically transition, aka "transtrenders". Most of the uwu catgirl skirt go spinny TIM variety are "tucutes". So there is a male/female dichotomy here also, with the females lining up (mostly, nothing is 100%) with the "truscum/transmed" side and the males lining up with the "tucute" side. All of these terms come from tumblr BTW.
I’ve noticed that too. TIFs are hated by the trans community for being female and for usually being on the truscum side.
I've noticed the truscum/transmed communities have a lot more TiFs as well. I have a lot more sympathy for them honestly... they're probably suffering from an actual mental problem (bodily dysphoria) and genuinely believe medical transition relieves their suffering. Doesn't make them men, but at least they have a reason for transitioning that's not based in the shallowest of gender stereotypes...
You should start a blog 'I look at Tumblr so you don't have to' modelled on the 'We watch Fox so you don't have to' people.
The sad thing is I only know this from following some radfems on tumblr, I have avoided as best I could the more extreme parts of tumblr but occasionally the weirdness spills over (like I found out about people getting tics from tiktok and stuff like shifting and otherkins) from people reblogging stuff. Mostly I follow aesthetic and lifestyle tumblrs. I'm not looking for the weirdness, it just appears.
surreptitiously Googles 'shifting' and 'otherkins'<
The DID stuff with people taking having multiple personalities used to be otherkin, thinking you had the soul of a being (usually fictional) in you so you actually ARE that character. It was all crazy fandom roleplaying, but they found a medical label they can appropriate to sound "real"
TiFs definitely notice the rampant misogyny of TiMs, but are too timid to ever call it out. Most of them will still bend the knee to Mx. Spinny Skirt and say that the TiM is so much more "oppressed" than they are.
Trans activists have spent decades trying to get people to understand that it isn't a fetish and what do we end up with?
A movement of fetishists posing as a civil rights movement?
Lots to unpack here, but the TIF talking about
my boytits
Erm… you know there’s already a word for that, right? If you’re a man with boobs, why not just call them the well-established term we already have?
Image transcription: r/Truscum
So many trans groups have become incredibly dysphoria-inducing bordering on fetishistic.
TW for quoting extremely dysphoria triggering language in the spoilers
So I joined a few trans groups on FB just to see what they were like and holy fuck I have never hit the "leave group" button so fast. One group, in particular, was just disgusting. There is no better word for it. Pure fetishistic cringe. I need to vent because I am still reeling from the garbage I read.
Pretty much every post was something along the lines of "I love wearing short skirts so my girlcock can catch the breeze" or "I don't want top surgery because I love having my boytits played with" or "tucking is for the weak, gotta show that shit off and my least favorite of all "they/them (or he/him) pussy hits different" Along with just endless nonsense about how "loving your trans body" (aka not having any dysphoria) is totes super valid.
Also bullshit of note:
- Saying that trans men are traitors to the community because we apparently just hide away and never did anything like "the strong BIPOC transfemmes."
- Saying that passing and especially being stealth is transphobic.
- Saying that "transmascs" don't really experience transphobia like "transfemmes" (see again, the claim that we apparently all pass super easy and then just "hide" and betray "transfemmes")
- White "trans" people claiming that white trans people (especially trans men) don't REALLY have any issues and just get everything handed to them when transitioning and are automatically accepted by everyone.
- Endless "uwu thigh high, cat ears, skirt go spinny" posts.
- Saying that HRT will lead you to develop fetishes. Treating this claim as a positive thing to look forward to.
- The uniroinic use of the word "clitty"
- "trans men should donate their uteruses to trans women."
How are we supposed to ever get taken seriously when our identity is being appropriated by these freaks?
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I don't like to kink shame, but god, the fetishy stuff is so annoying. Trans activists have spent decades trying to get people to understand that it isn't a fetish and what do we end up with? A bunch of weebs who think being a woman is wearing long socks and liking catgirls who tell us our dysphoria doesn't make us trans.
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They want to believe that surgically modifying their bodies makes them the sex they long to be. Well, no it doesn’t. They’re still deluded misogynists, just more committed to it. They’re also experts at mental gymnastics. There is barely any difference imo and they are just as gross and despicable.
Some of them do admit that the surgeries don't actually make them the opposite sex. I think what everyone thought transsexual meant prior to ten years ago is what "truscum" is now.
The funny thing is that I’ve heard (from some part of the online trans community, I think the transmedicalists themselves) that there’s a “tucute-to-TERF pipeline.”
POV you’re a teenage girl who just heard how your dad talks about women with his friends and you will never be the same
Damn, this is sadly accurate. Men are a disease.
Ah, thank you for reviving the horrible memory of going to lunch with my dad and his friend. When our waitress left the table, they looked at each other, then asked "Would you?" before laughing. This was in front of my mother and the friend's (now ex) wife and their young daughter. Men are disgusting.