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Need Advice or SupportRegarding my brother
This might get to be long and it requires a little bit of context. I apologize if this isn't the best place to post something like this. It's also marked NSFW for reasons which will become very apparent.
I have two younger brothers. The oldest of them is sixteen (read: a minor). He's a gamer, loudmouth, and spends much of his time online, usually on Discord.
A couple of months ago, I came home from a day out to him home alone and greeting me wearing a blouse, a pink tutu or skirt, and platform heels, saying he had to talk to me about something important. I was dumbfounded, not because being feminine as a guy is inherently bad, but because he'd never shown any inclination toward femininity before. And, of course, my first thought was, "Dear god, is he transing out?" Nothing came of that, I just went to my room immediately and he hasn't mentioned it since.
Today, I was bored and decided take a look at his Twitter account, since I have his handle and occasionally look to see if he's posted something. He has not, but I peeked at the accounts he was following out of curiosity. Holy shit.
The list of accounts he was following only loaded about thirty (out of 700) profiles, but nearly all of them had bios which ticked one or more boxes: was written in Japanese, smol uwu giwl-type TIM, "18+ only/minors DNI", self-described femboys, or mentioning something sexual. It was particularly accounts which described themselves as femboys, or occasionally sissies, which caught my attention and reminded me of walking in on him wearing that back in September.
Jfc. Some of these accounts list their ages as a decade older than him.
It got worse, too. I checked to see who was following him - again, it only loaded thirty profiles out of about 100, but most of them were porn bots, with one person who seemed very into BDSM and sissification from a quick look at their bio. This person doesn't have an age listed but is very clearly over 18, following my brother, who has his age on his profile.
His likes didn't contain any pornographic material, but it did include a post from a bot account which reposted an r/egg_irl meme. A smoking bullet, if you will.
I messaged him telling him to unfollow this shit, and I am trying to find the right words to use to tell my mom that her son is looking into some really weird shit online. She has so much she's dealing with in her life right now that I feel bad for dumping one more thing onto her, but this is something that needs to be done.
I'm also worried about him, even though he's frankly a bit of a jerk who flies into a rage when his ego is bruised. There is a whole hell world of paraphilias over the cliff which he is careening towards. I also am only looking at his Twitter account, not his personal computer, so I have no idea what kind of shit he's searching up or talking about with Discord friends. I fear I've pushed a massive iceberg to the point where it's about to tip over and expose a lot of nasty stuff.
I'm worried about myself as well, because my family doesn't know I'm a radical feminist aside from him - he's seen my own Twitter account where I am very open about my views. I'm always worried about what people might use as leverage against me, especially with my mom, who's been trained in the whole "trans respect no matter what" stuff as part of her job.
I suppose I need advice and support, as well as a place where I could get this off my chest without someone jumping on me for "transphobia" or whatever. I'm tired from this. Thanks for help in advance.