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PodcastWhy Smart, Quirky, Artistic Girls Take Up the Transition Fantasy
Trans and non-binary identities are often adopted by highly sensitive teenage girls who utilize these identities as part of their creative drive. It allows them to play and experiment with self-expression. But as detrans Laura Becker explains, this exploration ends up in contradictions and fantasies.
This discussion by the way, comes from a lovely set of podcasts from psycotherapists worried about the medicalization of non-conforming teens called Gender: A Wider Lens. I've watched a few episodes so far and have been loving it.
Becker believes that there are 3 overarching types of trans identities:
She describes the journey of type 1 for young girls who are heterosexual and how transition aligns with their sensitivity, quirkiness, and artistic talents.
What I particularly liked about Becker's account was how bluntly she described realizing that being a gay man with a female body was a fantasy, and how she had to try living through it to realize she was pushing her own fantasy onto others, and that just wasn't feasible.
This also explains why TIFs are usually very sensitive and more sensible than TIMs. Seems like TIFs are above average in intelligence while not the same can be said of TIMs, and also for being males, they end up pushing themselves into women's spaces and stubbornly continuing to believe their fantasies despite women denying them.
I totally see myself in this description. I was top of the class academically, and became incredibly sensitive to noises and sounds once puberty hit. I had a pretty big artistic talent and I struggled with social cues. It is the first time I see what I went through so elaborately and precisely talked about - the description is right to a tee.
Happy to share this resource!
Well that's a hard-hitting opening paragraph:
Gut-wrenching.
Wow