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Need Advice or SupportHi, I was the one who posted about her fellow trainee being a TIM. I have a horrifying update.
It happened. Your tips were great and I managed to keep him at arms length, but that dude cannot take a hint . Especially now that we started school (we have school and work, 40 and 60%). I managed to find some female friends already, but he just keeps following me around, scaring them off. Context: I am the only one he knows there and has apparently decided to make me his handmaiden. NOPE! He is the only genderspecial in the whole (big) class and I can see the looks some of the women give him. I know they think like me, but they - and I - don't dare say anything. So he's basically an outcast.
Here's the thing. I had befriended a woman while he was following me around. He kept following us - we didn't even really talk to him mind you - and he followed us on the women's toilet . I have never felt so disgusted in my whole life. But I understand the handmaidens now. It's easier to look away and give up. And I am ashamed to say - no one of us said anything. We just looked uncomfortable.
Here's an even worse thing. Next year, we will have P.E. Guys, I am so scared. I don't want to change with this hulking MAN with his giant hands and thick wrists. He looks like the "It's Ma'am!" TIM but younger. But if I say anything, I lose my job. And I don't want that. It's really important to me. I also can't make it too obvious. It's like balancing on a tight rope. His fake friendliness makes me sick. He smells MALE. I am disgusted in his presence and want to run away constantly. At work, we are at different departments all the time, but school... help.
Stories like these peak men. I think it forces them to acknowledge a small fraction of the fear of attack that women feel for their whole lives.
No guy wants to think that after a few drinks, he’s walking home and then gets followed and raped by another man.
Also the pronouns in this story are ridiculous: “she dragged him”, “she raped him”……she is a he everybody. SHE IS a HE!
Everything I was going to say! I cannot STAND reading the misgendering. (The correct gender pronouns for a man are he, him, his - calling that "misgendering" is doublespeak. Argh!)
What does that even mean? Was he in a woman's prison or just assaulting men in men's prison and blaming it on his gender identity?
I mean, he is incredibly dangerous. Your average trans person doesn't deserve to be around him either. Some people just can't be rehabilitated.