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RantFinally Told My Tim Brother the Truth
Last month, I finally told my trans identified older brother the absolute truth: he’s not a woman, never will be, and his unresolved trauma and undiagnosed autism doesn’t make him a woman, that pretending to be a woman won’t enable him to outrun his past, and that the whole family is well aware of his history of weird and degrading sexual interests and that this is metaphorical suicide because he’s punishing himself instead of finding the courage to make the real changes in his life that would give him a real sense of self-worth. And if this revelation makes him want to kill himself, I take no responsibility for what he does because he’s a grown man. Cowardice isn’t femininity, and his lack of courage doesn’t make him a woman. His inability to socialize with men doesn’t make him a woman. His desire to run from his problems doesn’t make him a woman. His reasons for thinking he’s a woman make him seem less like a woman and more like an autistic man. And no one truly thinks he’s a woman either - everyone is just blowing smoke up his ass because they feel bad for him and he presents as mentally unstable on social media.
He blocked my number and blocked on social media, but since he friended all of my high school friends (who were not his friends back then), they started reaching out to me to find out if I’m the person he’s putting on blast. I think he blocked me instead of responding to me because he knows I’m right, and I could respond to his posts with the dirty secrets he’s trying to hide under his dress. I guess I still could since he forgot to block my business accounts, so I can read his posts.
I thought I’d get hunted down as a TERF, but…no one has done anything. No one has said anything. No one else unfriended me. No one else has come for me. No one is putting themselves out there to defend my brother.
This was difficult for me because even though he’s my older brother and he’s bigger and stronger than I am, I’ve had to protect him growing up because he was bullied a lot. He still has a chip on his shoulder about that even though he’s middle-aged now and doesn’t even see anyone he went to school with except on social media. At the same time, he either refuses to see how his own behavior contributes to his lifelong lack of friendships and lack of closeness with his siblings, or he’s just not wired to get it, but either way, I was always supposed to defend him, take his side, and never talk to anyone he claims hurt him, even if it was just the normal teasing kids do. But if I did that, I would have forced to be alone and live entirely in his reality when I didn’t like him for a lot of the same reasons other kids didn’t like him.
But now that’s all over. I’m free. I take no responsibility for what he does to himself or anyone else. He’s been destroying himself for years, well before he walked down this path, and I’d like to see him come back from this, get the help he actually needs, and be the man he was meant to be, but it’s not my job to support his slow suicide in the alternative.
Will the tide turn or will we just get more dystopian
We don't have enough time left for the tide to turn. (https://pegtittle.com/and-heres-why-2)