71
DiscussionMen who just don't seem to get it
I was listening to a podcast with Sam Harris (timestamped) earlier today and the trans topic came up. His interviewer, a gay man, pushed back on Sam's position that women's discomfort with males being in their spaces should be respected by saying "I gotta tell you Sam, there's a lot of people with male equipment that I don't want to see when I'm in the men's locker room [...] I'd rather not see that, but look, that's just life."
I had to pause the video for a moment after I heard that because I was just so gobsmacked, not just by his attitude in general, but the flippancy with which he said it. Like does he really not get how those two situations are different? Does he really not understand that for women, it's a safety issue, not an aesthetic one?
Anyway I just thought this was so revealing as to how a lot of men seem incapable of putting themselves in women's shoes, how they filter their view on women's issues through their own male lens. I'd hazard a guess that this group of men has an almost 100% overlap with the SWIW crowd because they can't fathom how sex might be experienced differently by women, and since they enjoy casual sex with a high number/variety of partners, women must do so too.
This was kind of half-baked and I feel like there's a lot more you could say about it, but just wanted to get it out of my head before I forget. Feel free to expand; have you observed the same thing?