As someone who is in her twenties, I have noticed a large amount of women saying that they are lesbians, but claiming identities directly contradictory to that.

Maybe its not my place to talk about this, because I'm not a lesbian, but I do find it noteworthy. I feel that as an outsider looking in, something VERY weird is going on. I feel bad for actual lesbians having to sort through all of the people who aren't lesbians by definition.

These women who claim to be lesbian often share a plethora of traits, such as claiming to be a lesbian, but also being arromantic and asexual, claiming to be autistic, expressing attraction to multiple male celebrities and characters (they call this "comphet") having a similar fashion sense to each other, etc. Obviously, I am not talking about all young lesbians, but this appears to be a subset of the women who identify as lesbian.

The attraction they express towards women seems incredibly stereotyped and shallow aka its always " big tiddy goths" and ironically feels very male gaze-y, like they're saying it just to say it, and not like they're actually attracted to that, especially since most of these types tend to claim that they're aromatic and asexual. OR they want to live on a farm and essentially describe a friendship.

Half of these women seemingly just want friends. And often they talk about how they're attracted to X male celebrity and they'd turn straight for them more often than they say X generic goth girl is hot anyways.

These types tend to be agressively pro trans and into "Queer Culture." These women tend to assign superficial traits to the definition of lesbianism, such as quirky earings, liking X gen Z celebrity, or having a septum piercing. I get that certain things have been historically identifiers of people who were involved in the gay community, but now it feels like everything is claimed to be a "lesbian" thing except being attracted to biological women and only biological women.

Also, these are often the same women you may see either praising TIMS or dating them.

Then you have the TIFs that I feel are often true lesbians that have somehow been convinced or have convinced themselves that they cannot just be women who are attracted to women who do not conform to strict gender roles. Maybe it's internalized homophobia, maybe it's trauma. These women are essentially identical to butch lesbians, including the company they keep but take testosterone.

They never truly assimilate into men's spaces, because deep down they know d*** well that they aren't men. These women almost never actually assimilate into straight male culture, because not only would they not be accepted, but they don't want to.

That is fine, I understand, but it must be weird to be a lesbian navigating a dating world where you have to tread super carefully around the topic of a TIF's identity, and how they are totally a straight man, but date lesbians, and don't really assimilate into straight male culture.

Both group one and TIFS seem to have a strong inclination towards self harm, unhealthy habits and genuine mental illness.

Then you have TIMs that claim to be lesbians. These are the chris chans of the gay community. Often incels, who are weirdly obsessed with inserting themselves in spaces intended for lesbians and obsessed with talking about their penis. I feel like aforementioned group one is the most common partner for this type.

Maybe it's not my place to say, but the lesbian community seems to be going through a rough time, right now, and it must suck to be an actual normal lesbian woman and to deal with women who are straight but quirky and don't ever want a relationship with another woman, actual lesbians who are too self hating to realize it, and male fetishists who are obsessed with their "girldicks". All of these groups, respectfully, seem mentally unstable and it has nothing to do with being queer.