Background: I'm feeling kinda discouraged right now because I recently moved and checked out the feminist bookstore in town and found a large contingent of "they/them" women. I get that a lot of women identify as NB because they don't identify with the regressive gender norms and roles imposed on them. However, shouldn't these women at the feminist bookstore know better? I don't get it. A big part of the feminist project is to liberate women from these regressive gender roles instead of saying that since I don't like regressive gender roles, I'm not a woman? Is the fact that I don't try to compel other people to call me they/them or dress like Peewee Herman (it's like a fucking uniform for those people), I must like and identify with patriarchal femininity? These are the people supposed to be fighting for women's liberation? This is so reactionary! How do people not see this? Ugh.
Anyway, I've never identified as NB. I'm pretty GNC but I'm older (35) and haven't been super-online. I was also raised by lesbians who were GNC so I grew up thinking it was normal. I grew up seeing people harassing my mother's butch partners by asking if they were men or women. Now, I guess that's supposed to be "inclusive."
If you have identified as NB in the past, why did you and why did you stop? Did you have a political awakening or did something happen?