There was a post a couple days ago about why women's refusal to accommodate trans-identified males gets such a visceral reaction. The post made the point that ultimately, it's about women having boundaries and saying no. This is unacceptable to many men, and many women, too.

I agree with the post but I also wanted to share another perspective, or an extension of the reasoning behind that.

Before we look at the phenomenon of leftist women saying no, we need to acknowledge a fact that is seldom discussed:

Women are more important than men to human survival and wellbeing.

While I love multiple men, and desire them sexually and psychologically, and find some to have great principle and be admirable, while I find some women despicable, and I generally am irritated by the self-defeating attitudes of many women, the fact remains that women as a collective are more important than men as a collective. We are more necessary, while they are almost an afterthought in terms of their importance to genetic diversity and perhaps the emotional and psychological/spiritual needs in human life.

While men play a critical role in reproduction (insemination), the reality is that women are far more important for gestation and child-rearing. Here are a list of ways:

Women need to gestate the fetus

This is a labor-intensive process taking almost a year. Women need to stay reasonably healthy during that time, take care of themselves as best as possible. Women also need to choose not to excrete the fetus. It's true that abortion after it takes a deep root after a month or two or three, but some will be successful if they try. Since women had the mental capacity to do so, we have been choosing when to keep pregnancies and passing that knowledge on to our daughters. Men (and sadly, some women, I'm sure) have interrupted the passing on of knowledge not because they care about children but because they hate that despite male physical strength and male-oriented monopolies in the political, religious, and economic spheres, women have these life-giving powers.

Women need to feed the child from their bodies

In the modern world, formula is a lifesaver, but in the past, especially in cultures without lower-status women or domesticated animals to exploit, a child would likely die without this. A man can't do this, you NEED a woman. And a woman has to CHOOSE to do it. Even when formula or exploited women and non-human animals are available, a mother's breastmilk is still usually best for her child due to tailor-made antibodies.

Women need to raise the child

This is an ongoing and complex process that will take at least 15 years or so. And critically, IT INVOLVES BOTH PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL COMPONENTS. A woman must feed a child, guard it, teach it slowly how to defend itself as it grows, keep it occupied when it works, etc...

A woman must also love and bond with her child. WOMEN'S EMOTIONAL LABOR IS CRITICAL TO SURVIVAL. Children are generally hardwired to love and need nurturance. They NEED love and connection. It's not enough just to feed them or teach them. While a child may keep breathing without love, touch, and nurturing, they will not be psychologically well and I suspect their lifespan is likely to be short. They may also cause severe harm to those around them if they develop psychopathic traits, which was shown among some Romanian orphans raised in similar situations. Love and connection are not always guarantees against this, and psychopathic children can still develop despite receiving love and nurturing, but at least there's a much better chance of avoiding that with love and nurturing present.

So these are the foundations of life. And they involve intensive physical AND emotional components. BOTH are necessary. And BOTH are performed first and foremost by women. This means that men NEED women in a way that women simply don't, and never will, need men. Yes, a male child will grow and eventually be physically stronger than his mother, and likely have more status in the world (even in Western culture, he's listened to more at the doctor's office than a woman and is likely to make better pay and have his expertise questioned less). But there is a point in every man's life where he was utterly dependent on his mother's say so. Even the processes which make him up, which bring him to adulthood, and shape his mind, his thinking processes, his immune system, his prospects and likelihood of success in life, are based on her choices and her say so.

So what happens when women say NO?

That is terrifying to men. And it's also terrifying to women. Because both sexes understand women are necessary in a way men aren't. But they don't give the respect that is due. They understand women are necessary in a way they understand the earth is necessary. They understand that a healthy landscape is important to have health, but they still pollute. They understand that air travel and highly energy-intensive lifestyles are causing harm, but they still take the flights and think about the world they're "entitled" to.

A large part of this is based on competitive dynamics. If one group is doing it, even if you want to avoid it, the only result is that you'll be outcompeted, enslaved, or annihilated if you don't do the same. A really good example of this is what played out in the Americas between Native Americans and Europeans. Jarrod Diamond's "Guns, Germs and Steel" gives more details on this. It's also why matriarchal cultures have slowly been subsumed by patriarchal ones.

And a large part of these competitive dynamics are, I suspect, based on male entitlement, risk-taking, and selfishness. I think a lot of men are sort of neutral. They are influenced by their environment. But there are those who are going to rise as agents/leaders which sway most men, and women too. Because we are a hierarchical species, for better or worse. I suspect this is pronounced in male-dominated human societies, but it's still a factor regardless.

So it's up to women to be less violent. To have pity. To call for ceasefire instead of blood. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't. But people mostly expect women to do it. It's up to women do the volunteer work that keeps our most marginalized individuals in a given society from starving to death or being left to slowly rot and die. It's up to fucking prepubescent and teenage girls to be ambassadors to male immigrants/refugees, because girls are "nice" and "easy" and nonthreatening. It's up to women take their time and volunteer in churches to make sure that festivals are nice and beautiful and full of delicious food. And that they happen in the first place. It's up to women to organize secular events to foster community.

Because men aren't fucking doing it.

Even in the contemporary matriarchal cultures I've read about, it seems women are STILL doing most of the work. It's not a world where men have equal chores or anything like that.

And women and men KNOW men aren't doing it. They KNOW that to have a world that isn't a hellscape, women need to be working to make it happen. They KNOW that relying on men to do it is, sadly, a futile hope that will bring only disaster and suffering. Even men who try (and there are men who do) seem to lack the loving, warm touch that women provide.

So again, what happens when women say NO?

That's like telling a heroin addict that the heroin is saying, NO.

WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU MEAN, "NO," you @#$%^?!!!!

How dare you?! What kind of evil $%^& says NO at a time like this?!?!