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RantTrans alienates my gay child
I was typing all this in the Mom Friday thread, and realized maybe it should be it's own post.
My (actual) lesbian teen's friend group has been ravaged by spicy straights putting on homosexuality as a costume, adopting clearly bullshit trans identities, and being grossly inappropriate. It's obviously fetishizing and offensive as hell to actual LGBs, and my daughter feels the pain of this mockery. She doesn't even like the kids who are the ringleaders, but it has ensnared the one friend who is dear to her, and who actually seems genuine in her claim to be bi. Dear friend is stereotypically feminine. My daughter, by contrast, is quite the dapper butch. Friend is calling herself a trans boy at school. I homeschool, so luckily she's not around this environment. My daughter hates being around dear friend's girlfriend, who is always talking and joking about like porn and being a stripper one day. I was encouraging her to make an effort with that girl until she told me all this. She hates hearing dear friend called a typical TIF name, and wrong sex pronouns. Dear friend doesn't want my teen to call her he/him or by any name other than her own birth name. The constant talk of gender the others do does not happen around us, not even a little. She knows we don't agree. She used to state how she agreed with us before all of this. She practically lives at our house, spends every weekend and days during breaks here, and spends way more time with my kid, than her own pretending-to-be-gay-is-my-whole-personality, also I'm a "boy" girlfriend. I consider all of this to be a good sign, like, maybe she feels comfortable enough with us to drop the pretense. Maybe we can be a good influence on her and she won't come to any real harm. I have warned my child, if her friend gets too deep in this, we may need to cut contact. The social contagion is very effective. I won't risk either of my girls. I'm not sure what my point is. Whether I'm seeking advice, insight, commiseration, or just ranting. Anyway actual lesbian teens are not OK out here in TRAlala land, and it makes me angry and sad. Thanks for reading.