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RantThe misogyny of women calling themselves non-binary when they don't see themselves at traditionally feminine
This was a post I read today:
Hey! Not OP but I consider myself nonbinary cis femme. Ie, I was born/have the parts that align with the way the world would expect a woman to present. And I accept the perception of me as a woman, aligned with my born parts, which I have done nothing and likely will do nothing medical or clothingwise to disguise or change.
But I personally do not ascribe to being “a woman” as society would expect me to. Most people are taken aback at who I am versus the way I look (a nerd with a traditionally feminine figure, to sum it up). If a person can’t handle me info dumping critical media analysis or about my favorite video game while also accepting my body as is…it’s on them.
Does that make sense? (Not being rude! Genuine!) Just another perspective from a gender confused lil buddy. Hormones fuck me right up even during my own cycle, so HRT has never been appealing. I have a closet full of dicks bigger than the usual type of person to challenge me to a dick measuring contest 🤷♀️ I accept the body I was born in to while rejecting the societal standards it is beholden to, yeah? The main reason I don’t identify as trans despite existing outside the binary is, I can’t be assed to go through the medical process because the medical field is so hard to deal with as a cis femme. Ergo I’m not a valid trans individual (according to my perception)
I wonder how these women don't notice how sexist this sounds? They're accepting patriarchal gender norms and basically identifying as "not like other girls". They're saying "women can't 'info dump about critical media analysis', so I'm not a woman" and that is seen as plausible and something that should be praised?
How is this not backwards as fuck? How do they not see it? How do others not see how drenched in misogyny and traditional gender roles this is? Why can't you be a woman with interests that used to be taboo for women? Why does that make you less of a woman?
I'm sorry, I'm just so frustrated and disappointed seeing so many women are either acting like handmaidens or choosing to identify out of being a woman because they don't want to adhere to gender roles.