I have questions about deadnaming and maybe this isn't the right place to ask it but, why is it so bad for people to slip up if it's an accident? I have spent my life being called a shorter version of my name, which is extremely triggering because it is what the person who sexually abused me as a child called me, but it's the shorter version of my name. I can't throw a fit, or scream, I just ask people not to say it and deal with the PTSD around being called that on my own.
No one ever remembers to call me my full name. You can't say to a boss, hey that is what my sexual abuser called me. I don't understand why they aren't expected to have the same... sense of self, strength? I don't really know what to call it, but it's something that I really don't understand. Sorry, if this is in the wrong place, no idea where to put this. It is just something I have wondered about for a long time.