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ventWhy are there so many polyamorous women on dating apps?
I haven't been on dating apps for a few years and it used to be I would com across the occasional couple or polyamorous woman. But this time I feel like it is more women who already have boyfriends/husbands looking to also date a woman or looking for threesomes. It's really frustrating to want to date a single woman, I don't want to be second to some guy or even another woman. And the women will loads of time only post pictures of themselves and not their boyfriends. At this point it feels a little homophobic to not allow women to have monogamous relationships with each other because of the volume of polyamorous women making it impossible for single monogamous women to find each other. TiMs are such a minuscule problem compared to polyamorous women. Anyone else finding this issue?
All the women who want real relationships don’t go to those websites & the ones who have SA trauma or attachment issues use it as a supply of external validation, number one.
Number two, men have convinced women that they can’t expect fidelity, so women feel they have to play the game like men do; “if you’re going to sleep around then so am I!”… when all they really want is a healthy loving relationship; to be “chosen.”
But where do they go if they want real relationships?
Question of the ages!
Trouble is that of course all of the former human institutions like townships, gatherings, groups, churches, etc. aren’t really in place anymore. Online is just a meat market; another capitalist menu.
Best bet is to do the inefficient work of “putting yourself out there”… going to the places and activities you care about & be vulnerable. There are some dating apps that charge you money and say that they connect you with someone. But that is also a crapshoot.