Feeling too unattractive to be with a woman.

discussionFeeling too unattractive to be with a woman.

Posted December 24, 2023 by [Deleted] in LovingWomen

I have always suffered from low self esteem but, as I come to terms with my attraction to women, I find that this realization is worthless considering my faith in ever being with another women is non-existent.

I’ve been told about my face being pretty several times and, sometimes, I can see what others see… but my main concern is my body. I’m so tall, standing at 5’9, and slightly overweight. The overweight thing doesn’t bother me so much because I’m losing weight nowadays so it’s no issue. But I’m still thicker regardless. Not so much lithe or dainty as my features are more on the larger side.

I’d yearn for a women but I feel as though I’m too unattractive to do so. I don’t know what the post is about or what I want to achieve but feel free to comment about your stories and advice!?

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December 24, 2023

(Edited December 24, 2023)

I consider myself a butch febfem, I honestly don't think I'll ever be in a relationship either, I wouldn't mind to be in one, but I'm just very socially awkward and don't know how to start conversations with others easily. Being social does not come naturally to me. Im an easy going, just your average joe kind of woman. I don't feel I have low self esteem, I kind of love who I am, but at the same time, I feel that I'm not the kind of person who women would be attracted to or want to be with. I'm literally a boring homebody lol.

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December 24, 2023

I'm just very socially awkward and don't know how to start conversations with others easily. Being social does not come naturally to me.

I feel that I'm not the kind of person who women would be attracted to or want to be with. I'm literally a boring homebody lol.

I get how you feel, I’m with you on both of these.

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Posted December 24, 2023 by [Deleted]

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