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JineraJuly 14, 2021(Edited July 14, 2021)

Okay can I just rant for a moment? I am a little tipsy, so thanks sangria for sponsoring this rant.

The way the Internet collectively shit on white women is starting to get under my skin. I mean, sure, anyone who is racist completely deserves to get shit in return. However, that's not the things I am talking about.

I see a cute Instagram video of a white woman petting a puppy, without any text in the video.

"Ugh stupid yt's and their dogs"

I see a cute Instagram video of a white woman and her OCTOPUS (yes I am extremely jealous I love exotics!!!)

"Yt women and their obsession with weird animals is so fucking weird. Feels racist to me somehow."

A pic of a white woman with a caption "she looks so pretty! Girlcrush."

And I see so many comments "just another yt girl like all yt girls look"

Every single picture, video, whatever that contains one or multiple white women doing literally nothing special or to do with their race, I see at least ONE comment that has to say what she's doing, what she's wearing, how she looks like is "not good bc she's a yt".

And don't get me wrong! I am sure other races experience that too, to an extent. Except, when someone leaves these comments on a public platform, they will likely receive backlash. But every single time I see these comments about white women literally breathing, everyone thinks it funny.

A video of a white woman explaining how to do something with the dishwasher

"Haha yt women belong in the kitchen. Thats the only thing they are good for aside from being racist."

Like that's not funny, that's incredibly rude and uncalled for.

Whenever I see a white woman online talking about any social pressing issues i will see so many comments telling her to "stfu yt"

Recently I saw this post of a white woman with a chronic illness, she talked about how hard it was for women to get taken seriously by doctors. I think, personally, there's not a single woman out there who does not have at least one experience where a doctor did not believe her or blamed her issues on her sex (even if her sex is not to blame at all for said medical issue). And instead of seeing comments of other women sharing their similar experiences and medical trauma's, I just see so many comments saying "youre a white woman you don't get to speak about this. You have no idea what its like to not be believed by your doctors unless you're black." Like why are they fighting so hard to invalidate the experiences of millions of women?

Part of me, deep down, thinks that this is some kind of ploy to get women to turn against each other. Keep us busy fighting over how bad white women are and how we shouldn't speak about misogyny or rape, instead of focusing on how these issues affect ALL of us to an extent (even of our experiences may differ, they share a common root: sexism). That way we will achieve far less.

Edit: this was all set off because I have a lot of American followers on my Instagram. And it is tradition in my country to hang out the flag (dutch) with your schoolbag on it after you graduate high school. So like many Dutch people I have a pic of the Dutch flag with my bag hanging on the flag. And I out of the blue got a comment from a follower "yt's and their weird obsession with flags smh". Like.. what? No its a tradition.

PGTips4LyfeJuly 14, 2021(Edited July 14, 2021)

I just learned about "Standard shaming" on FDS today. Its when women shame other women for having high standards about their life, and their relasionships. Even so much as enjoying your life on your own terms. And it's because if you have higher standards than another woman who is insecure...since you aren't mirroring her low self esteem, its a threat to her own denial about her own self image and insecurity.

Since women are raised to believe they are inferior, need a man, should think less of themselves etc, any woman who has self-security and standards and boundaries is a threat to the paradigm of this scarcity mindset.

And yes, because of privilege, a lot of white women will have higher standards because they grew up with just sexism not racism + sexism. Or they grew up in more liberal homes (lots of POC cultures are extremely extremely misogynist.)

Women shaming white women (I've seen both POC and other white women doing this) over such small things like owning a dog or an octopus or having a hiking hobby etc, seems to be "standard shaming." It's insecure women finding any excuse to project their insecurities on women who have standards for themselves. Who enjoy their life. Who have boundaries, hobbies and are "high maintenance."

Also I'm sorry as an american, because us people from US are fucked in the head.

Just a thought though, it's because they are standard shaming. But they are cloaking it in woke culture.

JineraJuly 15, 2021

Wow! I actually never thought of it like this. The idea that the people leaving comments might be jealous honestly did not cross my mind. They come across as if they look down on us, but your explanation makes a lot of sense.

It just makes me sad because it can actually have an impact on an individual receiving those comments. And also because, whether we like it or not, the majority of the people on the Internet are from western countries, and most of the people living in these countries are white. So the majority of the Internet activism and feminism will come from white people living in those countries, not allowing them to have a voice or create a platform or shaming them for trying does more harm than good for online communities and the reach people can have on social media.

PGTips4LyfeJuly 15, 2021

Well if other women have standards then you have to start realizing you settled for less. Which means you'd have to face your own existential crisis, that you made things worse for yourself and your children, even gave up your dreams for some nobody man. Which most people don't want to face. Especially mothers with children. Especially mothers with children who are religious, I should say. And because of their religious upbringing in a misogynist society, they married a scrote. A low value, abusive, possibly even rapist, manbaby.

NoonefromnowhereJuly 15, 2021

Wait, people have pet octopuses?

JineraJuly 15, 2021

Yes! It is not exactly easy to keep them and to obtain them, but once everything is set they are amazing pets. The sad part is that almost all species only have a 1 to 2 year lifespan.

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