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RantIs every woman just a product to be consumed?
I'm a member on a plant trading subreddit. It is literally one of the only reasons I'm still on Reddit (I don't have other social media, except LinkedIn). I posted some plants for sale and one of the requirements on the sub is that you post a photo of the plant with your username written on a piece of paper next to it, so to prove that you didn't just steal someone's photo of a plant to try and scam the users.
There is no indication in my username or avatar that I'm a woman. I only post plant related content under this username. I suppose you could infer by membership in a plant related subreddit and by my writing style that I'm female, but otherwise no indication.
Some scrote or handmaiden decides to respond to my sale post with "I thought your username said thatplantslut and got excited" and as someone who is viewing the world through more of a radfem, depornified lens, it was really jarring and left me with so many questions.
Is every woman just a product to be consumed in the eyes of your average person? What would possess someone to write a comment like this? Would this person say that to a real life person working at a nursery or is this a product of the "anonymity" of the internet?
I looked through this person's profile to try to better understand what kind of a person I was dealing with. Is this just some pornified hopeless scrote? Is this some Onlyfans "cool girl"? I saw mention of dealing with trauma on their profile and wondered if they ever thought that the person they were commenting toward might have had sexual trauma and not appreciate being objectified. The real irony is that they didn't even know I was a woman. They had never seen a picture of me. Yet even a hypothetical woman is only there to be porn for a sick addled brain.
Even being a woman who's only undergone the standard sexual trauma of growing up in modern society, I felt so violated by this message from this rando. I noticed my female socialization kicking in and wondered to myself if somehow my handwriting led them to misread my username, but there was really no way unless they were already a pornsoaked scrote, then I got really angry and came here to vent to you ladies.
Thank goodness for this space.