I voted for Harris, but had a sinking feeling the last week of the election that she wasn't going to win.

I live in a very blue state, so my vote was redundant, but vote I did. I packed up the kids and walked down to the nearby school. It was depressingly empty, but in the middle of the day. Perhaps more would come after work. My youngest, running around like an escaped spider monkey, loudly told the volunteers that I was voting for Trump and I was not even an American citizen. Autism spectrum + my mother's penchant for mischief = my youngest. This really is not fair. I was a very good and compliant child. My kids should have my genetics, not my mother's. I quickly explained that none of that was true, I was indeed an American citizen and I was voting for Harris. They smiled and nodded and enjoyed this child who is nothing if not entertaining.

As I filled out my ballot, I was happy to see that an initiative to abortion rights was there. Okay, one good thing that I can directly influence! Will anything come of it? We'll see.

I marked for Harris, collected my imp cherub and fetched the older one. I walked home hoping for the best.

Watching it all over the internet, I just knew it wasn't going to be good news. I kept pressing refresh on Google election results until I fell asleep. When I woke up, I checked again and worst fears realized.

Twitter has been awash exit poll data showing votes by demographics.

Not all the data has been fully studied and we won't know the full scope for a couple of months.

But roughly 65% of Native Americans voted for Trump. I could not find data that broke that down by sex, but they per capita far outdid whites. More on that in a minute.

Trump actually gained significant ground with minorities, though not everyone.

Compared to 2020, Latinos went from 32% to 45% Trump. 54% of Latino men voted Trump, while 37% of Latinas did. He overall flatlined with black people. 92% of black women voted for Harris while 78% of black men voted for her. Asians went from 34% to 38% for Trump. Not a big jump, but still.

Whites went down from 58% to 55% for Trump. So interestingly, he lost ground with white people. 59% of white men voted for Trump, whereas 52% of white women did.

Who are Democrats currently most angry with right now?

It's.....always white women. Come on, you know it's white women.

Don't get me wrong, at 37% of the voting population, that could have made all the difference for Harris had those numbers been flipped. While Harris did better than Hillary Clinton gaining the vote of white women, she just didn't gain enough.

However, it's not like we're able to vote twice. My personal vote doesn't count for anything more than the Latino man that votes next.

What I don't understand is how I am being blamed by the talking heads, especially by ones like Joy Reid.

White women in the US have always been about 50/50, with slightly more this way or slightly more that way per cycle. Conservatives have been shaking their fists at our disloyalty for years. I always felt they deserved it because why should white women vote for Republicans who like to insult them?

But I feel the same way about Democrats. If the white woman's vote was so crucial, couldn't they have toned down the verbal abuse for a few months?

Quite frankly, I'm not sure that the Democrats deserved even 48% of white women's votes. They never come through on protecting abortion and the obsessive, weird hatred of everything white women do is alienating.

And why can't I be angry that the Democrats lost that much ground with minorities? Shouldn't they be apologizing and investigating where they went wrong? They went from 65% in 2020 of the Latino vote to only 53%?

Fucking HOW?!

Shouldn't the Democratic party be profusely apologizing for that? Minorities collectively make up 30% of the vote. With white women being evenly split down the middle, the Democrats could have won had their numbers not been so ho-hum with minorities.

Meanwhile, I'm seeing a lot of anger towards not just white women, but specifically the ones who DID vote for Harris. Apparently the ones who voted didn't do enough.

White Democrat women are the ones who have mostly been cutting off loved ones over Trump. I know many, many of my friends who have taken the time to announce that they have severed ties to elderly relatives, siblings, and lifelong friends. Now that some who were kids in 2016 are adults, I've even seen them cut off their own children.

While I don't usually participate in gratuitous white woman bashing, that is all morally questionable to me. Especially when they encourage others to do the same. Cutting off contact with someone is an extremely personal decision and not one that should be made under pressure from outsiders.

There aren't many, but some white women have been shaving their heads, wearing blue bracelets, sobbing and screaming on their social media. They are apologizing- APOLOGIZING! for letting Democrats down. They're wearing blue bracelets to show that they are good people.

And of course, other liberals just accuse them of being performative, self-centered, making it all about them, white woman tears! Go get fucked, white progressive women! Conservatives just howl with laughter.

When I see these deranged white women frothing at the mouth and hyperventilating, I feel like I'm looking at abuse victims in a cult. When the prisoner in the re-education camp finally snaps, this is it. They look like the Manson girls.

Who would want to join that? Who would want to live like that, being the omega dog that everyone hates? Conservatives hate you, but so do other liberals. What's the point of being a liberal when you are loathed to the point of it triggering rage when you are even mentioned?

And did it even work? Liberal white women have been cutting off loved ones for years, they've self-flagellated and simpered and cried and screamed in public or on social media. Trump just skateboarded to victory, with more minority votes than any past Republican president. All that sacrifice, and liberal white women are still reviled.......by other liberals.

There's been no serious self-reflection from Democrats that matter. (Not Brianna Wu). They're not considering how their failed policies negatively impacted some minorities. They're not open to the idea that the foul public behavior of their talking heads played a role. They're still pretending that most people didn't really care about trans ideology.

All the fixable things they could fix, they're not going to fix and will insist they either don't need fixing or are unfixable.

Screaming at white women is going to get you nowhere. Next time, you might even drop from 48% of the vote down to 45%.

Not one Democrat politician stepped up and said "hey, voters, don't make all these sacrifices. I will make the sacrifices. I'm here to make your lives better."

If you're working that hard for your party, your party is not working hard for you.

I'm sad and frustrated that 52% of white women voted for Trump. But I'm not angrier at them than I am Latino men, or Native Americans. I don't like that people voted for Trump, but I understand why many did. It's human nature to be repelled by people that speak to you like you're a pile of shit. It's fine to tell some people that they are a pile of shit, but don't be upset if you don't get their votes later. If you really, REALLY need their votes, you're going to have to refrain from telling them they are piles of shit.

So no, I will not be shaving my head. I will not purchase or make a blue bracelet. I will not cry or apologize or scream on my social media. I will NOT NOT NOT be cutting off my elderly relatives fuck you for even asking that.

I don't care if you don't trust me. I don't care if you think I'm a closet MAGA supporter. I don't care if you think I am aloof, indifferent, or too privileged.

Quite frankly, I did my bit better than what I was asked to do. I spread the word using reason, ration, and respect. I spoke to as many as I could. I let them know that Democrats can be more than just blue-haired hooligans smashing up college campuses and crying. On election day, I voted.

Stop wishing rape threats on me, and even on conservative women for that matter. Stop telling me I'm the problem. Stop asking anything of me until you do better with the platforms you have. I especially mean this to the talking heads who are on television.

I did not let YOU down, you let ME down.

You're the ones who are going to have to do better.

All of you need to sit down and read How To Win Friends And Influence People cover to cover and write a 4th grade book report on it.

And keep this in mind- I expect the party that I'm voting for to work for me. They need to please me. They need to do things that I like and that make my life better. I make absolutely NO fucking apologies for that. I will not be voting out of a sense of penance. It's not like there's redemption anyway.

That's not entitled or privileged. That's how voting works for everyone in the nation.