So many women seem to think men are genuinely clueless when it comes to a lot of issues. They think men just can't help being forgetful, oblivious, or "accidentally" offensive.

This is all bullshit.

They use this apparent "helplessness" to their advantage. They play dumb constantly, and then women happily explain it away using a series of delusional lies. Men don't even have to come up with excuses, women will literally delude and gaslight themselves and save men the hassle.

Men are capable of holding down full-time jobs. They wouldn't be able to do that if they were really as bumbling and clueless as some women claim.

Men don't constantly offend and exploit their bosses, larger men, other authority figures, etc. It's clearly something they can control seeing as they never behave in a bumbling, clueless, offensive manner around anyone who could actually impact their lives negatively.

They have tricked so many women into mommying and protecting them. Women make constant excuses for men and then wonder why they feel so overburdened, stressed out, burnt out, etc. It's because they're literally taking on both roles in the relationship at the same time—they've become their own psychological abuser via delusional excuses for their Nigel's behavior.

I'm not crazy about FDS, but one thing I absolutely love about it is "if he wanted to, he would."

No truer words have ever been spoken. Men are deliberate with their laziness and obliviousness. They know if they act stupid, their girlfriend will pick up the slack. It's because she has self respect and doesn't want to live in a chaotic pigsty. She actually wants to maintain positive relationships with their friends and family, so she takes on the burden of memorizing birthdays, buying gifts, organizing parties (because "men are just SOOO bad at it, teehee").

But look at anything men actually care about. They will sit hyper-focused at their desks for 12+ hours attempting to get some stupid Steam Achievement for whatever game they're currently obsessed with. They will go to elaborate lengths to hide side chicks, porn, and weird shit like fake vagina sex toys from their girlfriends. They will rent storage lockers their partners don't know about to store all their weird shit, they will pay the bill on time each month (but for some crazy reason they claim they can't remember to pay the actual house bills on time).

If men want to do something, they do it. If they don't want to do something, they don't do it. They play clueless and stupid, pretending to bumble around like a helpless child that can't take care of itself. Women's female socialization button gets pushed when we see this behavior, we immediately leap into action and begin the mommying and excuse making.

We do this because the reality that men actually hate us and don't give a shit about our comfort, dignity, or well-being is too much to bear. It's easier to lie to ourselves and pretend they're truly oblivious about what they're doing—but they aren't, they're fully aware of what they're doing.

If men wanted to, they would.