ROSLYN HAMILTON
“Whether on a street corner approaching men in cars, or being on call attending men’s homes/hotel rooms, there is no scenario in which a punter is safe to be with.
Just because he doesn’t beat you to a pulp doesn’t mean he is less of a threat.
There is an immediate power imbalance as is with all situations where money is concerned. He is in control at all times.
I had variations of evil and violent. There were those men who behaved or acted more decent by not beating me up (I was always relieved and grateful) and these men were less of a concern.
Though still a concern, other men were into kinks which altered the power dynamic again, always adding an extra layer of fear and uncomfortable to the equation but I had no real choice so I did what every woman does, try to make it as easy as possible.
Then there are those men who are as evil as they come and they don’t hide their need and desire to cause as much pain as possible.
Again, money entraps us further and there is no way out. He makes it last, enjoying every expression of pain, fear and humiliation and in the back of my mind I was always aware that I was an inch from death and sometimes hoping for the end result.
I died inside a little more every man I was told to make happy.
The smile was fake and desperate.
Whether I was stood in the freezing cold outside or trapped in a man’s house with all his mates, or in a hotel room/brothel, it was all the same.”
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I grew up in the Pacific Northwest when several serial killers were torturing and killing women, one of them targeting prostituted women, two targeting white women. Those sick men are still written and talked about with lurid fascination, their victims largely ignored. But I think of those women every time I see the attempts to normalize or even celebrate 'sex work.' Or the claim that 'white privilege' somehow protects white women from evil violent men.
There is no 'safe space' for women and girls. But there are safer spaces and safer lifestyles. Sex work of any kind is not one of them.