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RantBisexual women's relationships with men are heterosexual relationships-- not queer
I had a bizarre conversation on reddit. A bisexual female married to a man said she was in a heteronormative relationship.
That term is increasingly replacing heterosexual relationship and makes no sense. First of all, heteronormative has more to do with the assumption all people are straight the certain stereotypical roles in a heterosexual relationship.
Either way, when called out on it, she said that her relationship was not heterosexual because she is queer.
Normally these conversations are taken from the view point of gay people, but as a heterosexual women I find this offensive too.
First all, I find some bisexual women arrogantly make assumptions of heterosexual women and our relationships, so they like to pretend their relationships with men are different. So in their minds, her pegging him or him doing household chores means her opposite sex relationship is fundamentally different than a heterosexual woman's.
Then the poster made some weird comment about how calling her relationship with a man a heterosexual relationship erased her "queerness." What does that mean? One's attraction to both sexes is irrelevant to your monogamous relationship with a man.
I also increasingly hear bi women call there heterosexual relationships as "heterosexual passing." Utter madness.
edit: A closeted gay man in a marriage with a woman wouldn't be said to be in a queer marriage with a woman. LOL. His sexuality is irrelevant when/if he is with a man.