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RantFeeling fed up with everyday harassment (rant)
This is obviously nothing new to anyone here but the amount of unpleasant behaviour we have to put up with from men every day is just astounding. I live in a small town of around 2,000 people and there are probably 10+ men I know who I am actively avoiding because of how creepy/stalkerish they are. This isn't counting random men who bother me.
The biggest culprit is a 70 year old man who used to be a customer where I worked who is just straight up stalking me. Follows me around in his car, changes direction or waits for me outside shops just for a “chance meeting”, stares at me in public….etc.
Last week, another man that I’ve told I had no interest in him, came up behind me in the supermarket and stroked my back and said “looking pretty today aren’t you?” in my ear. For more context, this man regularly commits crimes so the “hot” policewoman he likes will arrest him.
Another one (who is a known pest) who goes to the same sports club as me said that he had seen me on the street but that he hadn't recognised me because he's "not used to seeing me with my clothes on." -referencing not seeing me in non-sports clothes before but obviously also meaning it as some creepy comment implying that he sees me naked. He said this in front of a big group too and all the others at the club thought it was very funny of course. He's 60 and married btw. He also stands offensively close to me when we talk.
Several times I've been sunbathing in the park and random men have come and just stood right next to me even when there's loads of space elsewhere. I don't want to move to give them the satisfaction but it also obviously ruins my time.
Even a guy who I’m sure is gay, every time I see him he goes on about how lonely he is and how I’m the only one who understands him and then makes weird comments about my appearance which is just very uncomfortable.
I also stopped going to an art club because some man that started turning up and kept making weird sexual comments towards me.
I feel dread going outside and sometimes I just avoid it because I know I’ll inevitably come into contact with one of these guys. Then that just makes me feel angry that I have to alter my habits. In fact now I purposefully don’t have habits at all because I don’t want any of them to be able to track them.