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RantIt is all so STUPID
Posted December 20, 2022 by Itzpapalotl in GenderCritical

.Just another angry rant about how mind numbingly ridiculous the whole thing is.

It’s been taking up too much space in my brain today so I’m releasing my rage here, amongst those who understand...

How can anyone buy into this complete nonsense? This ideology demands we pretend there is no physical difference between male and female humans.

We are supposed to buy that our father, upon claiming a special (and nebulous) “woman identity” is completely anatomically and societally indistinguishable from our mother? That he is just as much a “woman” as the female who gestated us for 9 months and pushed us into the world through her birth canal/had us surgically extracted from her womb?

I will not pretend that my body is the same as a male body. My whole life has been shaped by my female body and the way society treats females.

Even if males and females were treated with equality, even if there was no crime disparity or systematic misogyny, even if women were liberated and there was no patriarchy (though I think Transgenderism is a symptom of misogynistic society) I would not pretend this...because it is a lie. I won’t lie. We are distinct from men.

We grow up internalising the struggles of our sex class; in history class we learn that females are aborted in utero, or left out to die or abandoned in orphanages, that heirs are male, and female children were unwanted, a disappointment...we wonder if our dad wished we were a boy.

We learn from the news that women and girls are abused, kidnapped, raped and killed by men. All the time. We learn that some of them deserved it for dressing the wrong way or walking in the wrong place or asking for it. We learn to stay away from strange men.

We know that if we were born in less fortunate circumstances we would be denied education, have our genitals mutilated, be forced to marry men twice our age...because we are female. We learn what happens to girls in other countries and our own.

We learn from our mothers that domestic and emotional labour is our domain, they didn’t have our opportunities - they were secretaries, receptionists, nurses ... their career paths limited because of their sex, their presumed reproductive capabilities. Their dreams never mattered as much as those of our fathers.

We learn from our peers that we are good at things “for a girl” (yet oddly enough, our male peers are taunted when they do things “like a girl” 🤔) we are chastised for being “unladylike”. When our bodies change, our male peers change towards us. So do older men. We are still children but suddenly our bodies are public property.

I could go on and on and on about being a female in this world. The objectification, the humiliation, the hardship, the biological struggles, the injustice, the sisterhood. The millions of ways our experience is different to men.

The universal experience of “womanhood” is being female in this misogynistic and completely male-centric world.

And all this horrible minimising of woman’s experiences, blatant untruths of biological denialism and denial of male depravity...it is SO unfair and so cruel. To deny women the ability to define their own bodies and experiences as female and distinct from men. To force us to pretend that our experience is isolated - not female specific (because that hurts the feelings of some narcissistic men)

What I want to ask the privileged idiots who buy into this foolishness is this....if you castrate a bull and stick a bow on its head does it become a cow?

Put a dog in a pink diamanté collar and is it magically a bitch?

No? Human beings cannot change sex. That is a fact. If you deny this then you are an imbecile who is colluding in gaslighting and abusing women and girls.

Sorry for how long and jumbled this rant turned out to be. It’s just so fucking maddening. Being demonised for understanding the most basic of truths...men are not, and cannot be, women (and vice versa) it is all gaslighting on an international scale. But how weak minded do people have to be to fall for it? How has it gotten this bad? :/

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KarinaDecember 4, 2022

Gave up on men. Feels freeing

IworshipKalikadeviDecember 5, 2022

Amen (or should I say A-women lol) sister ❤️

GreengreenbeanDecember 5, 2022

I gave birth!! Genuinely the most amazing thing my body has done. It was too late for an epidural for me so I did it unmedicated. My sweet baby boy is now in my arms and I cannot be happier!

Committing_Tervery🧙‍♀️🐱December 8, 2022

Congratulations!

sylviasmushroomsDecember 4, 2022

I joined a local group of musicians and rose to a leadership position while raising three kids!

IworshipKalikadeviDecember 5, 2022

Big congrats to you sister!! That sounds like some insane hard work and persistence. You are clearly a role model

TomyrisDecember 5, 2022

My wife and I sometimes use the app Yik Yak which is anonymous chatting with other users within a few miles - for us that's mostly university students. Since it's 100% anonymous I feel safe being my full radfem self on there. So I use Yik Yak to push back on the horrible porn-soaked culture these people are living in, and particularly to lift up the women who are having a hard time, and let them know they deserve better.

Today I made a post about how gross it is when men try to choke women during sex. My wife made one about how men need to stop watching porn. Both of them got a surprisingly large # of upvotes. I feel good about it because we are starting conversations and voicing opinions that are almost never seen, otherwise.

Committing_Tervery🧙‍♀️🐱December 8, 2022(Edited December 8, 2022)

This sounds amazing, I’m gonna check out that app! Good job on you both. <3

IworshipKalikadeviDecember 5, 2022

Wow that's really cool! I'd love to see radfem points more online other than niche spaces like this. I think it's really important to use the internet to help women out vs how it's been weaponized against us.

JoinMeOnThePeakDecember 4, 2022

I am mentoring a group of young career women once a week. We bring in successful more established women to tell their stories give advice and answer questions, work on skills such as presenting, facilitating, and underlying it all, building confidence as professional women. I do this pro bono ( this is the sort of thing my company does for its clients). I coach them individually too, but time constraints with the day job means I can't do too much of that. It's one of those, 'wish I'd have had something like this back when...' It's a way of giving back in gratitude for the mentors, sponsors and allies who helped me. I thoroughly enjoy it.

IworshipKalikadeviDecember 5, 2022

Wow that really does sound like something I wish I had in college. And you're doing it for free? Amazing gyn. I'm so happy it brings you joy because society needs women like you.

[Deleted]December 4, 2022

Good for you! The reason I actually committed to no longer was shaving was because I thought about my nieces and goddaughter growing up without seeing unaltered women's bodies, and it broke my heart.

I got the new moon circle for my women's spirituality group back up and running in October, and I have received some wonderful feedback from the participants. It's been wonderful to see so many women of so many backgrounds coming together and sharing their stories. It's also becomes so apparent that even the libfems really know what makes a woman a woman when they aren't in an oppressive space.

IworshipKalikadeviDecember 5, 2022

New moon circle sounds amazing!! You're doing something so cool! It's so good to hear even libfems are receptive to consciousness raising in a solid environment

estinaDecember 4, 2022

I made it through a trip with some rather materialistic/looks-focused family members while existing as myself without make and with grey hair at a young age, and not even stressing too much about it (only a little). Sounds simple but this has been a challenge for me for years.

IworshipKalikadeviDecember 5, 2022

Yep I think ik EXACTLY what kind of family members you had to deal with. In this age I don't think it's simple at all and I'm so happy you're breaking through those awful standards placed on us ❤️

estinaDecember 5, 2022

❤️

fightlikeagirlDecember 4, 2022

Good on you for setting an example for your niece of a woman being comfortable with her natural appearance. I've been making a conscious effort to fight the urge to give right of way to men in walking spaces. It's wild seeing how often they will almost collide before it registers to them that they need to be the ones to move instead of expecting women to make way.

IworshipKalikadeviDecember 4, 2022

Aww thank you. I realized when I was a kid I never saw a single female relative go to a party without doing some painful beauty ritual (waxing, plucking etc..) Makes me sad. Glad I can help my niece at least.

I'm giving you so many props for the not giving way. It is tough! I find I have to be very confident and look almost over their heads sometimes and the sheer entitlement they have in not getting out of the way makes me mad sometimes lol.

PersepolisDecember 6, 2022

I'm working on my mental health right now by frequenting radfem Tumblr again in an attempt to help liberate my thinking from being braindead to being enlightened. That is to say, I'm trying to learn how to love being a woman instead of trying to use gender identity to separate myself from my womanhood. It's not easy, but I know I can do it.

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IworshipKalikadeviDecember 5, 2022

Wow this sounds amazing! You are directly making a difference in these woman's lives. I hope I can get similar support in the future when I leave my country. It makes me so happy when I see women transcend oppressive rule.

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