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MementoMoriMarch 18, 2025

But her story is more about the complicated dynamics between her parents and herself and how her mother’s submission to her father even continues somewhat today, in what she describes as being like a case of Stockholm Syndrome, where a victim comes to sympathize with their captor.

Her father, after being arrested and jailed, managed to get a letter out to a relative, who in turn delivered it to Gisèle. In it he complained of being “abandoned” by his family and asked for financial help.

Caroline was furious upon hearing this, she writes, but was even more stunned and taken aback by her mother’s reaction.

“Your father’s in a bad way in prison,” she told her daughter. “He’s suffering so much; I must have failed him in some way over the past years.”

“Her silence says a lot,” Darian writes about her mother’s reaction to her daughter’s belief that she was also her father’s victim. “I thought we were a united and tight-knit clan … and I am hit by this implacable reality in the face: my mother does not want to believe me or to hear me. The pain runs right through me.

“It is an abandonment too many… It’s as though the ground opened up under my feet… I have spent four years trying to be there for my mother, cherishing the bond that counted so much for me. I feel alone facing a wall of desolation and no one seems to understand.”

I get it. Even though Gisele Pecot stood up for herself in court, she still defaulted to brainwashed housewives' thinking that "it must have been partly my fault that he turned out like this." Basically, these Stockholm women prioritize the good image of their husband in their head over what reality is actually saying. They will find excuses and blame it on themselves and anyone else they can but never the man.

While the daughter has no such protect-the-man tendencies. Of course she is angry her mother still finds excuses for the rapist after everything he's done. She even feels bad about putting him in prison for his crimes against her, for God's sake.

The daughter is 100% in the right here.

ToNorthMarch 18, 2025(Edited March 18, 2025)

I don't believe Darian in this case(on what exactly Gisele said), she does not speak for her mother and I will not allow her to judge someone who went through something so awful and evil and still fought back for women everywhere. Gisele can feel whatever the hell she wants for the rest of her life, she's owed that. Darian needs to get a therapist and work through her shit in private, heal and maybe rebuild her relationship with her mom. Because all she's doing right now is throwing it into the ground for the entire world to see and tear the both of them apart over.

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