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DiscussionWhat did men teach you about men that you wish you didn't know?
I mean, I guess I'm glad I know all these things, but the education was so harmful, so discouraging, so scary. I was making a list today, and these are the things men who were in my life taught me about men that I wish I didn't know, or rather, that I wish were not true. Add you own in the comments!
I learned that love and sex have almost no connection for men. For many men, "I love you" merely means "I want to have sex with your body." And then most men experience a cognitive affective shift after sex that means they are less interested in you after they've marked you by having sex with your body.
I learned that men are capable of forcing you into sex. Men are also capable of using violence against you. And they can do these things while claiming to "love" you. In fact, the violence of dominance sexually arouses them.
I learned that men's minds and hearts are always laser-focused on other men. Status among male peers is what men crave most of all. To gain that status (or not to lose what status they have), men are fully prepared to throw women under the bus, even women they "love."
I learned that you will always be a woman to a man, and you can never be a friend or an equal. I learned they will pay far less attention to what you say than what any man--literally some bum off the street--says.
I learned that if you try to emulate men or stand up for men, that does not bring you men's respect. Handmaidens are always just that, a member of the servant class.
I learned that expecting reciprocity from a man is like expecting blood from a turnip. Reciprocity is reserved for other men.
I learned that men are fully invested in the double standard, and believe the legal system exists to provide impunity for any crimes men commit against women.
You’ll never see passion like a man defending the reputation of a man he’s never met
Yes! I've seen males jump through fire to protect a man accused of being a rapist or God forbid gay! faints 'Oh, she's lying for attention!' She's just bitter that he moved on and now wants to destroy his reputation!' 'He can't be gay, he's married!' The only time I don't see males go to bat for another male is when it comes to pedophilia accusations.That's because I think some of them are afraid of outing themselves, so distance themselves as much as possible from the perpetrators. Not only is it illegal and highly immoral, but it negatively effects on their status, unlike adult rape and murder. I don't believe all males are pedos, but unlike women who morally object to it, for many males It's merely a concern of taste. It's not their cup of tea, so they have no issues chastising. Sadly, that's how the male human thinks.